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    I had to put my Gabriel down on Tuesday so I know how hard it is to go through this.
    We are all here to support you.
    It takes love and courage to know when to let go and set them free from pain.
    I pray for your dog and I asked my dog Gabriel to give all the dogs that have passed over from this forum a big hug. He was always a big cuddly daddy to little dogs

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    Does the pain ever stop? My heart is broken

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    Did you and your family release Abby to fly free on Wednesday?

    If so, your pain is still very raw and yes it hurts. It hurts like hell when you love so much! The pain does get better with time, little by little.

    Sweet Abby, thank you for giving me the opportunity to get to know you just a little bit. If you have indeed sprouted your wings and flown, your pain has ended and you are surrounded by many new friends who will watch out for you now.

    Thinking of you both,
    Kathy
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    Meg, over time the pain is much less frequent and the good memories come to mind much more often. How long is different for each one of us.

    Know that Abby is pain and illness free. She has many others to play with on the other side of the rainbow bridge.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Meg_Elizabeth View Post
    Does the pain ever stop? My heart is broken
    I know how you feel.

    But I also know that I lost a dog before him so yes the pain will stop being so intense. After about a month it starts to ease. Mainly because that is when they leave the spiritual realm and go on to the next one. You will probably get a feeling that they have moved on or a visitation from them in a dream.
    I remember my first dog now only of the good times we had together now - its the ending that hurts most if they were in pain and the missing them.

    And if anyone leaves a black towel on the floor I think its him. Those sorts of things never go away but you don't react so bad each time - it's like rough waves coming at you - hitting you hard but then becoming gentler until the waves are just good memories

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    Abby, my heart is aching because I swore I just heard your bark and for one second thought I had my best friend back. I am so busy during the day that it's hard to feel anything but anxiety and exhaustion. But sitting here, without you, looking at your photo, breaks my heart into pieces and hits me like a brick. The emptiness in my heart is so heavy, the pain is so paralyzingly.

    I miss you so badly Abs and wish I had done so many things differently. I'm sorry I didn't take you for more walks. I'm sorry I got mad at you for making me anxious. I'm sorry I let you suffer so long. I'm sorry for not giving you more hugs or tummy rubs when I had the chance. I love you with all my heart and would give anything to have you by my side, healthy, happy, and alert. I hope you're enjoying heaven and playing with all your k9 Cushings friends.

    With so much love,
    Mommy

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    Meg, I know exactly how you feel. The difference between humans and animals is that they're so intune to us. They know that we're not perfect and they love us unconditionally.

    They also have an amazing ability to forgive us for being human. While we're beating ourselves up, they've moved onto the next day and love us still.

    Abby had no doubt how much you loved her. You gave so much and please remember that.

    I am so glad that you were able to come home to her after your treatment and that made her world right again. You were there when it mattered and you shouldered ALL of that without your parents' support so often. Please remember all of the good that you gave to Abby. She does. Hugs.
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    Being human is hard, the mistakes and regrets eat me alive. You're so kind and helpful, everything you said hits home, especially when I'm grieving my beautiful Abby. She forgave me over and over again, and I wish more than anything that I could do things differently, but here's hoping that I'll see her again one day. Until then, I'll try to remember the good times I had with my best friend.

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    Meg, it's been just over a year since Daisy Mae passed. I have rare moments when something brings on the tears. Honestly. I have many more smiles when I think of her.


    Time heals and your perspective changes too. I promise.
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    "Some of you, particularly those who think they have recently lost a dog to ‘death’, don’t really understand this. I’ve had no desire to explain, but won’t be around forever and must.

    Dogs never die. They don’t know how to. They get tired, and very old, and their bones hurt. Of course they don’t die. If they did they would not want to always go for a walk, even long after their old bones say: ‘No, no, not a good idea. Let’s not go for a walk.’ Nope, dogs always want to go for a walk. They might get one step before their aging tendons collapse them into a heap on the floor, but that’s what dogs are. They walk.

    It’s not that they dislike your company. On the contrary, a walk with you is all there is. Their boss, and the cacophonic symphony of odor that the world is. Cat poop, another dog’s mark, a rotting chicken bone (exultation), and you. That’s what makes their world perfect, and in a perfect world death has no place.

    However, dogs get very very sleepy. That’s the thing, you see. They don’t teach you that at the fancy university where they explain about quarks, gluons, and Keynesian economics. They know so much they forget that dogs never die. It’s a shame, really. Dogs have so much to offer and people just talk a lot.

    When you think your dog has died, it has just fallen asleep in your heart. And by the way, it is wagging its tail madly, you see, and that’s why your chest hurts so much and you cry all the time. Who would not cry with a happy dog wagging its tail in their chest. Ouch! Wap wap wap wap wap, that hurts. But they only wag when they wake up. That’s when they say: ‘Thanks Boss! Thanks for a warm place to sleep and always next to your heart, the best place.’

    When they first fall asleep, they wake up all the time, and that’s why, of course, you cry all the time. Wap, wap, wap. After a while they sleep more. (remember, a dog while is not a human while. You take your dog for walk, it’s a day full of adventure in an hour. Then you come home and it’s a week, well one of your days, but a week, really, before the dog gets another walk. No WONDER they love walks.)

    Anyway, like I was saying, they fall asleep in your heart, and when they wake up, they wag their tail. After a few dog years, they sleep for longer naps, and you would too. They were a GOOD DOG all their life, and you both know it. It gets tiring being a good dog all the time, particularly when you get old and your bones hurt and you fall on your face and don’t want to go outside to pee when it is raining but do anyway, because you are a good dog. So understand, after they have been sleeping in your heart, they will sleep longer and longer.

    But don’t get fooled. They are not ‘dead.’ There’s no such thing, really. They are sleeping in your heart, and they will wake up, usually when you’re not expecting it. It’s just who they are.

    I feel sorry for people who don’t have dogs sleeping in their heart. You’ve missed so much. Excuse me, I have to go cry now.”
    "May you know that absence is full of tender presence and that nothing is ever lost or forgotten." John O'Donahue, "Eternal Echoes"

    Death is not a changing of worlds as most imagine, as much as the walls of this world infinitely expanding.

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