Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 313

Thread: Holidays can be hard...

Hybrid View

Previous Post Previous Post   Next Post Next Post
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Georgia
    Posts
    13,945

    Default Holidays can be hard...

    I started a thread this same way last November. I hope it was a comfort last year, and that it will be a comfort once again. We are a family that spans the globe, bearing our sad losses together and holding one another up, all together. So once again, here is a thread that can be our "home" for the holidays. Here we go...

    These last few weeks have been so tough for our family here. And the holidays are especially hard, no matter whether the loss was yesterday or ten years ago. So I thought I'd start a thread where people can check in, if they want. It'll be here all through the holidays. And if anybody has a special memory to share, we will love to hear about it. And if anybody is having an especially hard day, we'll be here to listen and join in a group hug. Because that's what we do. We laugh and cry together. And that's the way we continue to honor our loved ones, all through the holidays.
    Marianne

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Georgia
    Posts
    13,945

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    And for those who may not already know about our special candle-lighting site, here is a link:

    http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...m?l=eng&gi=K9C

    All through the holidays, we can keep our candles burning bright. Shining with comfort and warmth. The candles will keep shining through our tears, and remind us that love never dies.

    Marianne

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Arizona
    Posts
    2,832

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    Thank you Marianne,

    Just taking a moment to remember my Roxee and Mickee. It will be difficult going through the holidays and missing all their little quirks. They would always get excited and knew that when the tree went up, it meant special treats and a load of toys. I can still see Roxee looking at the gifts under the tree..then looking at me and waiting until I said OK... She always knew exactly which package contained her favorite toy and loved ripping it apart. Mickee would always be close by reminding us not to forget his special treats.

    I have been taking every opportunity to enjoy as much time as I can with Rozee, (Roxee's littermate sister) and LittleBit. Rozee always waits for the big bag of toys to get dumped so she can jump into the middle of them she is getting older, 16 now, but still loves her stuffed toys. LittleBit is still learning that life in our home is about fun, playtime and cuddle time... it will be her 2nd Christmas with us. I think she likes it here

    Miss my Roxee girl and My Mickee boy........
    John (Roxee & Rozee's Dad)

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Georgia
    Posts
    13,945

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    It is Christmas morning, and the doggie girls and I are the first ones awake. It is still dark, and so the lights from the tree gleam so beautifully. In just a little while, coffee will be brewing and "Merry Christmas!" will ring throughout the house. But right in this moment, I stand by the tree and remember Christmases Past, and shed a little tear for the loved ones who are with us today in spirit alone. Oh, for just one more moment together, one more hug. Just one more Christmas...

    But the light from the tree shines so brightly. And so does our love. I will always remember. And I will always miss you all, until the day that we are reunited once again.

    Merry Christmas to all my beloved angels. Peace be with you, now and forever ~
    Marianne

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Georgia
    Posts
    13,945

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    I decided to "bump up" this thread once again, just in case anybody has a thought or memory that they'd like to share throughout this holiday season. For me, when I think of my angels, the holidays always bring both smiles and tears. And it feels good to know there is a place where I can come and talk, no matter which way I'm feeling.

    Don't worry, Spirit Barkis, I'll be saving a bite of turkey for you, just like I do every year! I miss you so much.

    Marianne

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Location
    Frigid Milwaukee-brrrrr
    Posts
    7,954

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    Thank you Marianne, what a kind, thoughtful thing to do.

    Last year my mother had fallen and broken her pevic in two places and we did not think she would recover. Most people her age do not. I was out looking for nursing homes. It was quite a feat to bring her home last year for Thanksgiving, she could not walk by herself or get in and out of a car.

    This year, she walks with a walker just fine and can walk in and out of my house without a ramp and get in and out of my car.

    We plan on having a joyous Thanksgiving with her and Zoe and Koko. The kids are stopping by for appetizers and their Papa's famous Bloody Marys sans liquor

    I am so thankful my mom and Zoe are still here. I feel truly blessed.

    I will say a shout out to my dad in heaven. I believe he does a great job watching over us and has some good pull with God I miss him very much even though he has been gone for 12 years. But his presence is always with me, steering me to the right path.

    Thank you Dad, for still being there for me.
    Last edited by addy; 11-20-2012 at 07:59 PM.
    love,
    addy, zoe and koko


    My little dog - a heartbeat at my feet. ~Edith Wharton

    Memory is the power to gather roses in the winter

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Jan 2015
    Location
    Fairbanks, Alaska
    Posts
    60

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    This is so beautiful - thank you. I just lost my Wrangell in November to lymph node cancer. It has been unbearable. In addition, I just discovered my girl Shelby has cushings, which lead me to this site.

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Georgia
    Posts
    13,945

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    Oh, you are so welcome. And welcome to our forum and to our family! I am so sorry about your loss of Wrangell, and also sorry to hear that you are now dealing with issues with Shelby. But we are here to support you as much as we can, in all ways. If it would be a comfort to you, please do feel free to open a thread in honor of Wrangell here on our "In Loving Memory" forum. We have many beloved honorary Cushpups who can be found here.

    Also, we'll be anxious to see you start a thread for Shelby on our main "Questions and Discussion" forum. I can't wait to meet her!

    And I want to mention to everybody that of course there are far more holidays in the year besides those we have just now celebrated. And some that are especially poignant when it comes to our furbabies, like Mother's Day and Father's Day. So please, anybody and everybody, do feel free to continue posting to this thread at any time throughout the year. The door is always open!

    Marianne

  9. #9
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Georgia
    Posts
    13,945

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    How is it possible that another year has flown by? But here we are, poised to enter another holiday season. So once again, the door to our "Holiday House" here swings wide open. Just as I wrote last year, all will be welcome, and all our loved ones will be honored. Always.

    Quote Originally Posted by labblab View Post
    OK kids, another November is here and another holiday season approaches. Wowsa, how can the days fly by? On the other hand, how can the hardest days seem to drag on forever...

    Anyway, I thought I'd bump up this thread once again. Just in case anybody wants to drop by to share some smiles, tears, thoughts, memories, dreams, wishes, hopes and sorrows. I know for me, the holidays are made up of all those things, including some of my tenderest feelings and greatest longings for loved ones who are physically absent.

    Anybody who knows me here knows I like to yak! It brings me comfort to talk and to write. I surely understand it is not the same for everybody. But for anyone else who also finds solace in adding a note here or sharing a group hug, please know you are welcome no matter what is on your mind or in your heart. Good or bad, happy or sad. This is a place we can come all through the holidays, knowing our K9C family understands things that perhaps our other friends and family do not. Like how much it matters that things are forever changed by the absence of a sweet warm body and a dear face at the table, at the party, in the kitchen, at the fireplace, at the window, at the door, by the tree, in your lap, beside your chair, just being loved.

    Starting things off with a giant bear hug from me, in honor of my Barkis and the joy he always brought us at the holidays. He was a December baby, as was my dad. Both will always be so special to me in the heart of my holiday memories.
    Marianne

  10. #10
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    Chicago, Illinois
    Posts
    164

    Default Re: Holidays can be hard...

    Hello All:

    It's been exactly one month since I last held my Fritz in my arms. Time seemed just to slow down but really flew by. As much as I don't want to do the Ho Ho Ho thing this year. It seems that it is something that has filled my time.

    I have shopped, baked, written cards and letters, and decorated 4 trees. The first and last tree was the hardest. It was hard to start with the first and the last had all the ornaments to commerate each year we had with our pups. Every year we bought an ornament from Petco to celebrate our lives with them. Then came the Angel daschund ornaments. Needless to say tears were shed when I found the first years ornament and the Angel ornaments.

    Fritz loved Christmas and Santa dog. He loved the tree going up and hated it coming down. He loved the cookies baking and the prime rib on Christmas Day. Somehow, he knew the meaning of Christmas and always gave us the best gift, his love.

    Tonight, we are going to a hospice event to remember my dad. We submitted a picture of him on Santa's lap holding a toy rifle when he was a little boy. So PC incorrect. As they flash his picture and read his name, we will place an ornament on the hospice tree. It's been 11 months since he has passed and last Thanksgiving was the first and last of all the lasts. He passed away less than a month later.

    Yes, this Christmas will be difficult and I have been told to do as much and as little as possible. Busy works and is working. I miss my Fritz and never realized how hard things would be after my dad passed.

    I am trying to forget 2015 and move forward to 2016.

    Can we just skip December?

    Marge

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •