Zoe By My Side- Our Journey with Cushings

[Jenny & Judi in MN]

Addy: I am glad you are taking a day and that Koko is feeling better. When my Mom had a harder time getting in and out of vehicles we found a minivan worked the best even if we had to use a stepping stool to get her into it.

She had read somewhere that if you put a trashbag on the seat it makes it easier to slide the person around. We tried it but all I remember as a result was a lot of laughter, not sure if it helped!

thinking of you. hugs, Judi

[molly muffin]

Just one mental health day? Honey I'd be taking a whole host of mental days. LOL
You do what you need to do for you and Koko and hubby. There are tons of books written on grief and what I've always found is that grief is personal to each and every one of us and how we experience it, react to it, is going to be unique to. So, do your thing, whatever that may be.

Totally get your daughter or others to help with your mom! sheezzz, why do you have to be the one to get her in and out of vehicles. You got family, put them to work. Say this is how we are going to do and this is your designated task to help me, make it happen for her on the day of. Just organize their tushes to be/do what you need done.

Call a caterer to do the food and serving even. They can help out a lot and you won't have to worry about trying to cook and do everything on your own. Then tell brother dear he needs to chip in to help pay for it too. LOLOLOL Gawd, I'm a wench eh. hehehe

love
Sharlene

[My sweet Ginger]

I'm totally with everything what Sharlene said.
You didn't have enough time to grieve and went right back to work the very next Monday after the weekend sweet Zoe passed. Can you take a couple of days off now and spend a few days with Koko and also nourish your broken heart and soul by doing absolutely whatever you'd want and just be good to yourself?
Hiring a caterer sounds really good to me if your brother agrees to split the bill which he should and be happy about. You can still plan it as you'd want it without all the exhausting preparation
Reaching 90 is a very, very special occasion for anyone and I'm sure your mom will have a very happy day because you will make sure of it.

[Bailey's Mom]

Hear, hear!!! Ninety is a momentous occasion! You are on disability. Medical and emotional! You just tell brother that this is how it's going to happen. If he balks, he can stay home. If paying for a caterer is out of the question, you could get party platters from either a restaurant or the grocery store. Tell Kate to come home and pitch in. A few balloons, some pretty flowers and some ice cream and cake and cards and there you have it!

Back to the emotional disability-you've not had a vacation in six years, right? Sounds to me like there should be some leave built up, maybe....unless it all went for vet appointments. Isn't this spring gong to be the perfect time to take a week off from work, even if you don't go away? Or a five day weekend? I'm also wondering if your disability insurance policy at work would cover you for some time off. I sprained something once and filed a disability claim wanting to get coverage for some of the medical expenses and found I got reimbursed for a day of work that I missed.

[Tina]

Hi Addy,
I'm with Sharlene, can others in your family help get your Mom in and out of the car? And catering the food is a fabulous idea!

I'm glad you are taking a day to just be, it is very important. Thinking of you, as always.

Love and hugs,
Tina and Jasper xo

[Mel-Tia]

I am thinking of you all, I know that feeling of everyone not understanding all to well. It's hard to keep up the act day in day out so I think taking some time to yourself is a good idea.

I hope you and Koko look after each other tomorrow.

Big hug Addy
Love
Mel
Xxxxx

[apollo6]

Dear Addy
Be strong for yourself, be selfish for you and Zoe. You need this time to grieve and be with Zoe in your lose. People can be so non understanding. You have held your family together for so long. It is time they take charge for a change. My warrior sister, you and I are so alike when it comes to family. Don't allow you feeling to be pushed down. When Apollo died, I had to move and downsize my Mom with no help from my brother while I was grieving Apollo. It was horrible. I packed every day, came home exhausted and cried all night about Apollo. We know only to well what you are going through. If we could we would stand around you and push everyone away to let you breath. You need down time and don't be afraid to say so. Zoe was your life, she was your soul mate, the one you went to when times were bad and when times were good, nothing can replace that. She was your world and you lost that, now there is this emptiness, lose that needs to be nurtured, comforted.
Hugs Sonja and Angel Apollo

[doxiesrock912]

Hopefully your daughter will help you with mom and her party.
If not, my mother was in a rehab center for one of her birthdays and they let us use a large room for a private party. No one disturbed us and it was perfect!

I'm so glad that you're taking a day for yourself and that Koko is enjoying having you there all day to himself. Xo

[Spiceysmum]

Addy,
Glad you are taking today off for yourself. I am sure Koko will enjoy you being there.
Hope your Mum has a wonderful birthday wherever it is held. I think we are all the same sort of people here, the ones who organise everything, that's what brought us here in the first place!
Linda

[Trish]

God is it Friday yet, I need to get off! Big hugs Addy x