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Hi Patti, Sorry you didn't get much sleep last night. Sleep is important for both you and Tipper. It seems she is sleeping but tremors during it. Just a dusting of snow for us over night, so we had a nice walk this morning.
Hope you have a good day and can get some rest.
Sharlene and molly muffin
Hi Everyone:
I didn't post on your threads as I had an emergency with Delora. She called me this morning crying and saying she needs help that she is confused and cannot get dressed. Got her all straightened out and her son is coming to get her and take her to his house. Now I have a cat to take care of again. She spilled a carafe of coffee all over the kitchen. She forgot how to make her bed and dress herself. I was right the cancer has gone to her brain. God Bless her, I have done all I can. I need to be here for my Tipper. Blessings
Patti
Oh Patti, I am so sorry that Delora has deteriorated so badly. That is just a very, very sad situation for her and for you, who have tried so hard to help her as much as you can.
I saw you and Tipper had a walk this morning, so that is good you were able to get out.
hugs
Sharlene and molly muffin
Hi Everyone:
I have had so much bad news today it is incredible. Delora called at 1 pm and told me her son never came to get her and she was hungry and could not get up. I hurried up and threw a pizza in the oven and took her some up. The poor thing, she is pitiful and I could tell her mind was all jumbled up. He did not come until 4:00 after learning his mother forgot how to put her clothes on!! How disgusting is that??? Then I was sitting down watching the news and saw something about a major league pitcher hurting his shoulder. I knew this face and did not hear his name.After constantly thinking of this face I went and did some research. It turns out it was my best friend who I went all through school with, and lost touch with after I moved, it is her son I used to babysit. I was floored, and immediately started searching for his mother online. This was a girl I spent most of my school days with. I couldn't locate her, but found her sister who I was also friends with. I called her only to find out my best friend died of breast cancer. I am devastated. No one knew my new address to tell me. I never got to see her and she was asking for me. I feel terrible and crying all day in disbelief. Her son Scott had just gotten a contract with the Yankees and she was on her death bed. He flew home and before she died he told he he made it to pitch for the Yankees. She died shortly after. He has played for various teams since then and is currently dealing with a shoulder injury. This is definitely one of the saddest days of my life. I just wish I could have hugged her once again. She never got to see her boy play major league baseball. It is very dreary and cold out. It kind of suits my mood. I am hoping Tipper has no bad tremors tonite. I was really not aware they could get this bad. It worries me so much. I pray every nite they go away for good. I don't think Delora will ever come back to her house, so I need to start to find a home for her cat. Blessings
Patti
what is it that you call it in the states? murphy's law.
is there anybody who will take good care of delora when she is at her son's home? we do have organizations called hospices.
they take care of people dying in a home like environment. lots of volunteers.
hope you will have a quiet night with tipper and a lazy sunday with good weather to walk in.
Patti,
I had something similar happen with a good friend of mine. I had no idea that she had cancer until her husband told me that she had passed. I'm so sorry!
Please call your local VNA and tell them of Delora's situation and that she needs proper care asap. Her son will let her sit at his house and do nothing.
Get some rest, ok? Hugs.
Hi Everyone:
Well Delora said she would call me last nite, but she didn't so she either forgot or her son did not give her the phone. I fed her cat this morning, and it was crying for her. The house is as mess from her not being able to get up, if I can I will clean it up tomorrow. I have low energy today. Yesterdays news has had quite an negative affect on me. Tipper had several episodes of tremors as she was going to sleep last nite. It is snowing as I type this and too cold for her to walk. I am very depressed knowing my friend passed and I need to get myself out of this. I do not think Delora will make it to summer, I think she is very close to passing. There is a lot of sadness filling my heart these days, but as always I am blessed with my Tipper. I hope the weather warms up so these dogs can walk. Tipper looks forward to it, and needs the energy burned off. Blessings
Patti
My college roommate has MS - a rare form that has no remissions. We lost touch years ago because her hubby was in the Army and they traveled all over the world but I could learn about her through her sister who lived in town then. After her sister moved, I had no way to find out how she was doing. And based on the last report, she was losing more and more function rapidly.
Last year, my roommate and I reconnected. She is back in ARK and living about an hour away. She is now bedridden, unable to care for herself. At first she begged me to come see her then she would tell me not to come. This has gone on for a year now - begging me to come, then begging me not to. She doesn't want me to see her as she is now but wants me to remember how she used to be, how we used to be - which was wild and crazy. We are those friends who constantly laugh and sing and whisper our secrets together. Every day was a new adventure for us. As badly as I want to see her again, to give her a hug, to watch her laugh again I honor her wishes. One time I was already in her town when she called crying, saying please don't come.
It is heart-breaking to be so close yet needing to respect her needs and desires. So I allow myself to become lost in those memories I so cherish of Carol and I through the years, remembering her vitality, courage, humor, intelligence, and determination. And through the tears, I always find reason to smile.
I am so sorry for the loss of your childhood friend and for the manner in which you learned of her passing.
Hugs,
Leslie
Hi Patti,
I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. I know that hurts and just finding out now, makes it very raw. Take some time to remember the good times. Maybe put together, a memory book if you have photos and memorabilia from your times together. I have always found the best way to honor someones life is to remember who they were and who you were together. Best buds.
The situation with Delora is awful. I cannot imagine how scared and confused she must be and to not have the basic support of her family must have been worse, however, having said that, and I know it took a lot of your energy but she did have you. What could be done to help her, was done. You talked to her and helped her, fed her and took care of her as best you could and that says an awful lot about you as a person. You have done what you can and now it is in the hands of her son. He may not want or like the responsibility but it is his. If you have his number, a call to ask him what he wants done with the house and the cat at this point might help. I wouldn't put it past him to dump her back off there as soon as he thinks he reasonably can do so and get away with it. At least you'd know if that is his intention or not.
Wow, snow again. It'll be wonderful when real spring and summer finally arrive and you can get outside with the animals and enjoy the days again. I am sure that they will love that too.
Hang in there. This too shall pass. Remember, we all just do the best we can, whatever the situation may be.
hugs
Sharlene and molly muffin
i am very tired so a short reply. i hope you can have at least one walk today and a good night sleep.
Hi Everyone:
Tipper is really bored we woke up to snow on the ground so I hope it warms up so she can walk? I noticed when massaging her yesterday that the fatty lumps she has are getting very large, and very quickly. She has always had these in the past, but they never got this big this fast. Some are in places that have to hurt. I even found a really big one on her ear at the bottom by her head. I do not want to put her under, so I need to discuss this with my vet. She did have a decent sleep after some tremor activity. Delora called me again last nite. She said she hurt her knee and can barely walk. Her sons wife gives her a phone to use only when they are home and can listen to what is being said. The cat is beginning to cry for her and not want to eat very much. I asked my other neighbor to start asking any friend if they want her, in the event Delora does not come home. I do not think she will ever be back, but I will wait. I know what a hard time I had placing Grace, so this will be even harder to find a home for her.Tipper was making those real congested noises again last note and when we got up I noticed her eyes just filled with goopy mucus. I cleaned her up, but want to know what is going on here. I feel it has some connection to the swallowing and always trying to clear her throat. She is getting mucus from somewhere. I feel bad for her and Toby they are really sick of this weather.If I can get up enough energy I need to clean this house. I am just really down about my friend and real low energy. This is hard to shake off. Blessings
Patti
Hi Everyone:
First I just want to mention my neighbor Delora is in the emergency room, that is all I know right now. Please say a prayer for her. I had to keep busy so I cleaned the house. Not a real great job, but it will do for now. The dogs walked once as it is still too cold. It is snowing here again. The cat is looking for Delora and sitting on a chair next to the door when I went in. I am worried she may try to run out when I open the door. She is upst not knowing where Delora is as she was used to sitting on Deloras lap while Delora watched TV. I feel bad for her. I think if anything happens to Delora the will hurry and take the cat and lock up the house. I am afraid they will just take the cat and let it out some where or shoot it. I am not feeling real great as all this news has really impacted me. Tipper and I are laying down and watching the news, and Toby is sleeping. I shall wait until someone calls me about Delora. Blessings
Patti
Oh my gosh Patti, what a horrible few days you are having.
I hope they wouldn't do anything so horrid to Delora's poor kitty who is just missing some human companionship and her special person.
Did they aspirate those lumps to find out if they lipoma's? Some of them can grow pretty fast I've heard, but that isn't traditionally how Tippers have been?
Sorry the mucus problem seems to be back. grrrrr
Spring has to show up here one day soon I'd think Patti. Just hang in there.
I saw a dove on the deck yesterday. Every year they show up when spring is here or just about here, so I know the weather will warm up soon. (or I'm going to have some cold doves out there!)
hugs
Sharlene and molly muffin
I saw a robin today, I'll send him on to you:):):)
Sending hugs
signs of spring for all of you finally! overhere we do have some frost at night. -2C or so.
and patti, i hope you can find some time to relax despite everything going on.
i never had a dog with lumps or throat problems etc. so i can not help you with this one.
Patti,
the whole situation is sad. Can you get to the hospital and tell the doctors all that you know about her son and wife so that they can place her somewhere safe if she can't come home?
If the cat is healthy, I would take it to your home now. From there, you can find her a home without worrying about Delora's family.
I am so sorry that this is all happening and I hope that her son gets what he deserves. I hate to sound harsh, but he is a disgusting excuse for a human and makes the rest of us look bad.
Tipper's mucus and now goopy eyes make me think of allergies.
Take care sweetie.
Hi Patti, I haven't checked in on your thread in a while, but I wanted to stop by and thank you for still keeping up on my thread. I think about Tipper often, and hope you are holding up.
Are you thinking of taking in Delora's cat with you until you know what's going on with her? It's so sad the cat is just waiting for her. I would hate to think her son would go in there and try to get rid of the cat.
Just hearing our weather forecast...snow due here tomorrow afternoon and night...not too much they say. Guess we'll see.
I hope Tipper and Toby are having a good night...and your other babies too.
Barbara
Hi Everyone:
Well I just spoke to Delora. Her son is sending her to a nursing home. I knew he would never take care of her. I told her ai need to do something about the cat. Yesterday when I went to feed it her daughter in law came stomping in the door and scared the daylights out of me. Talked down to me and real smart, acting like I did not belong in Deloras house. Looking in the refrigerator etc.to make sure nothing was missing!!!. It took every ounce of will power I had not to tell her
off. Then she told me Delora was in the emergency room, that is how I found out.She lied and told me a different hospital. So I called around and found her. I explained to Delora, because her cat was nor up to date on shots and never checked for Corona virus, I could not take her in. She asked me to find her a home. I said I am not getting in the middle of this, and finally after 6 years of holding back,told her everything about her son and daughter in law. She said I am so sorry. I told her to tell her son to care for the cat, as after yesterday I have had it with them. I am afraid if I take the cat somewhere like my other neighbors house her son will start trouble. I am putting a call into the social worker at the hospital this afternoon, because they have a meeting with her this morning. I am going to fell htoer all about this son. Tipper has laser therapy today. It will be good to go for a ride, as I can't handle any more bad news this week. Tipper had a lot of tremoring going on last nite. She has been sleeping a lot as she is bored. She got up at 5 am this morning. Just got a phone call from Deloras cousin, and HSR son will not tell them anything. I will post after therapy today. Blessing.
Patti
Hi Everyone:
I just typed a long post and lost it, because Tipper is trying to attack my tablet since I played the video of Leslies she thinks my he tablet is barking and ruined the corner of the cover. As you have probably guessed you were going to read, I took the cat. I took it to my neighbor mans house. It jumped right up on his lap like it was at home. Could he possibly fall for her???? Let's pray he does. I told him not to tell anyone where it is. I needed to get it out now as when I see her son and daughter in law it won't be them talking smart to me. They will be real shocked as fireworks will be going off. Delora will be going straight to a home from the hospital. Some time when they are not around, which will probably be always, I will ask Iif I can take the cat to see her. Tipper and Toby had 2 walks. I am glad she got out as the sun is out and looks beautiful. I am planning a trip to the cemetery where my best friend was buried. I need to see her gravestone and tell her I am sorry I let her down when she needed me. It will have to be a nice day when Tipper feels good as I will have to take her and Toby with me. It is nice that you can get maps of the cemetery and see pictures of the stones. It is weighing heavily on my mind, but have the cat to care for this week. I will have to run to the neighbors and feed and clean up after it. Sometimes life is not kind. Blessings
Patti
Patti,
I hope that your neighbor falls in love with Delora's cat.
Telling off the son's wife wouldn't get you anywhere. They have no conscience.
Good for talking to the hospital social worker! Tell them EVERYTHING!
Please suggest that they appoint a non-family member to be in charge of her care. They can do that. I wouldn't trust the son at all.
You do so much, too much. You're one person and can't be there for every needy person.
Get some rest. I worry about you. Hugs.
Oh my, so they aren't telling the rest of the family what is going on either. :(
I am sure the son and daughter in law would not have taken care of the cat, if that is the way they reacted to you being there to feed and clean up after it.
I am so sorry this has turned into such a mess in your lap. :(
Sending you prayers for strength to get through this.
hugs
Sharlene and molly muffin
Patti, this was Ginger before her seizure medicine. A lot less now with the meds. Is Tipper's anything like this?
http://youtu.be/V7R9jwWpe4A
Hi Everyone:
We woke up to 2 inches of snow and frigid temperatures. Tipper will not be walking. I called my neighbor last nite and he said he was watching TV and the cat was sleeping on his lap!! I am hoping this time together could help him decide to keep her permanently. Could I be so lucky?? Tipper did good at her laser therapy. We were discussing all her lumps and bumps, and she said Tipper seems bothered me by two of them that she could see, as when touched by the accu pressure tip in the laser she moved her body away from it. K will go over this with the vet next week. This is a first for no blood pressure today. I decided Tipper's mental state is more important, and she needs this break. Toby goes on the 31st to get his teeth cleaned and blood work, and then the first week in April he gets his new spring do. I made the mistake of having him groomed before his dental the last time, and they just ruined his do. They get wet and yucky when being worked on, so no more of that. I talked to Delora last nite. She said her daughter in law was going to take the cat and it could stay on her sun porch. I felt really bad, and did not have the right to say this but I told her no, I have the cat and I will never give her to them. Delora was taken back when I said that and did not know what to say so she just said ok. I would love have let an animal go to an abusive situation. It will all work out. Delora said her soon is putting her in a nursing home near where we live on Thursday. She was given a cat scan etc
yesterday. The son probably wants to know how long she has left some does not have to pay any money to the nursing home! Blessings
Patti
Hi Patti,
We didn't get the snow...just some fierce wind today so it feels way colder than the temperature outside.
What a situation Delora is in...poor thing. If it is a decent nursing home she will be better off with people taking care of her as it sounds like she's unable to be on her own anymore...though I'm sure she will miss her cat. So many nursing homes aren't that great so it all depends on the place, I hope the one she goes to is nice.
Maybe your neighbor will enjoy the company of the cat. A little more time together and maybe he will become attached! I hope so.
Glad Tipper gets a break from doing the blood pressure, it was so good last time, seems like you wouldn't need to do it again this soon anyway.
Hope those lipoma aren't bothering Tipper too much.
Barbara
Hi Everyone:
Well I got some video of Tipper on the tablet. She was having tremors, but not the bad ones. I will try to get these up on photo bucket. My neighbor who has Deloras cat called me this morning and said the cat cried all nite. He had to go out and lay on the sofa, she curled up with him and went to sleep. Hope she does not keep this up, and make him not want her!!!! Tipper was really bored and naughty today. Thats OK cause I love her anyway. Next week temps in the 50s!!
Blessings
Patti
hi patti, i hope everything will work out fine for delora and her cat.
hopefully your neighbor will take her.
is tippers leg totally healed by now? or does she still need this therapy for something else?
maybe you can visit delora in the nursing home and inform the staff?
good night to you and tipper.
Patti,
good for you refusing to give the cat to Delora's family! I hope that she calms down and gets used to being with your neighbor. It's hard for them to be uprooted but they adjust.
I'd glad that Delora will still be close enough to visit. I would definitely talk with the social worker on staff about her family.
No walking for Daisy either. The wind and temps are horrendous!
Hi Everyone:
Tipper had many tremors last nite when falling asleep. I need to get some time to get the video ai took with the tablet on photo bucket. I cannot take any animals in !y office until the end of May because of the Corona virus that can still live in the carpet, and the dogs could carry it to the rest of the house on their feet? Therefore I cannot go in tom use the computer as Tipper will bark and cry. There are many things, paperwork, pictures, stacks of mail that need attended to. I may ask the sittermto come sit with Tipper while I get this stuff done as it will take a few hours to get it all accomplished. Delora is to be transferred to the nursing home today. She had a bunch of scans yesterday and I can't remember if I mentioned this, but they said she definitely had a stroke too. I am going to try and walk Tipper before the rain. Blessings
Patti
The cat is in a strange house and by the sounds of it not in a room with anyone... think I'd howl too. Poor thing.
Wet weather this weekend so not much walking for Keesh I don't think.
hmm, we're suppose to be dry here I think Sat and Sun. Just rain this evening and tomorrow. Our temp are finally above freezing, so that is awesome! Judi you need to come down this way with Keesh. LOL
Sorry to hear that Tipper had more tremors last night. :(
I think the cat just needs constant companionship as that is what he is use to. So, if the neighbor gentleman just lets the cat be with him all the time, it should adapt.
hugs
Sharlene and molly muffin
Hi Everyone:
All my neighbors are calling me to find out about Delora. She is being transferred to the nursing home this afternoon. My neighbor who is keeping the cat for me said the cat did good last nite with no crying. I am sure this is a major adjustment for her, and I feel bad, but this fate I much better than what she faced with Deloras son. Tipper had two walk today and is happy as a lark. We still have not gotten the rain. Toby goes in on Monday to have his teeth cleaned, so he will get a little taste of what Tipper goes through! Tipper is resting, and Toby is passed out. Toby is so little he has to take 5 steps to Tipper's one, so he gets a work out. I found the cemetery where my best friend is. I was able to see her stone, leave virtual flowers and a note, which helped a little. I hope there is no thunder associated with this rain. I noticed on Tippers hair under her koochie that it has a brownish stain on the fur. I am going to have to have the vet look at it, as I am worried about what it is being brown and all. Sorry tmi. Blessings
Patti
so glad that the cat is settling down with your neighbor.
two walks before the rain and happy doggies because of this.
no thunder i hope?
sunday the weather forecast says it will be 20C overhere..........not normal anymore!
so glad that the cat is settling down with your neighbor.
two walks before the rain and happy doggies because of this. great!
no thunder i hope?
sunday the weather forecast says it will be 20C overhere..........not normal anymore!
Other than Delora being moved today, it sounds like everyone had a good day at Patti's house. :-) I'm so glad that the cat is acclimating. I spent most of the day helping my best friend move her mother's belongings to an assisted living facility. This place will let her keep her cat! I was quite surprised.
Is it raining by you yet Patti?? It was almost balmy here this morning at 44 degrees!! It's all relative...after so much cold temps in the 40s feel downright warm!
I got Trixie out to the park early as with all the rain expected who knows when she'll get another long walk off the leash.
Hope Tipper and Toby were able to get out before the rain starts up.
Is your neighbor falling in love with Delora's cat yet?? Does he live alone? Maybe once he gets used to having some nice cat company he won't want to give it up! I hope so.
Barbara
Hi Everyone:
Well I waited and waited for Delora to call and so I called the nursing home. She got on the phone and the first thing she said was how in comfortable and depressed she was. She said I told my son if I stay here I will die. She said she hates it and is so depressed and was crying. Her son is at her house as I type this scavaging for whatever he can find . The neighbor said the cat did not cry last nite, but he closes her out of the bedroom, and that is upsetting to me, but what can I do. He is avidly looking for am home for her, so I think he will not be keeping her unfortunately. Tipper was up most of the nite, because of the rain and we have very bad wind. She actually slept in this morning!!! A whole 20 minutes!! It is dark out and looks like a storm looming. I feel bad about Delora but there is nothing I can do, but visit her. She cannot call out on her phone, and I am not sure if the son did that or what, so I will have to call her. She said she hurts everywhere , and has sore spots all over, that is the cancer. I feel bad she has ended up like this. I just saw a truck going to Deloras so they are taking her furniture already, it is her grandson the one that has never come here to see her.Blessings
Patti
some people....................... did dolora rent the house? could this be the reason they are closing it down so fast? money?
i hope you and your neighbor can find a good home for her cat.
i hope there will be no more wind and rain tonight so you can sleep well.
Patti,
Delora is lucky to have you as a friend. Visit her as often as you can and see if they'll let you take Tipper.
Cats are nocturnal and as much as I love Gracie and Annabelle, I have to lock them out of my bedroom so that I can sleep.
Hi Everyone:
I am posting late today as I had Tipper and Toby for 2 walks. I passed Deloras house and the family that never came to see her are looting her house. They just stared at me and said not one word as they carried put Deloras belongings. She does own the house and I saw them carrying out some papers so they are power of attorney papers more than likely for her to sign the house over to them. I told her long ago to make a will and leave it to animal friends and really fix them, but she was too scared of her son to make a bold move like that. Tipper has been licking and biting, something I have not seen for a while, and they say because of this winter being so bad that allergy season will be horrible. She will have the whole run of the place when Toby goes in for his tooth cleaning Monday. I have most of the room disinfected where Gracie stayed God love her. I will let the animals back in there in May and it will make it a lot easier on me, as Tipper stays with me all the time and I will be able to use my computer. Lucky likes that room as it get an afternoon sun, and he can lay there and watch the birds. A cat came in the yard to see my cats through the sliding glass doors and when he left Lucky of course wanted to follow running to all the windows in the house to look out, and wanted in my office desperately. He paced in front of the door and was head butting the door in an attempt to push it open. So they will all be happy when it becomes part of the house again. I talked to my neighbor about Deloras cat. He said it is no trouble at all, and likes to sleep on his lap. Well then why is he still wanting to find it a home? I do not understand people I swear. Why can't you just help the poor thing out and give it a home??? Tipper is going to love it Monday when Toby gets no food and has to go to the vets!!! She will probably be secretly laughing to herself. Blessings
Patti