new from europe (arthritis and vetoryl?) - Ian, Flynn and Enya have passed

thank you all for your sympathy.
i don't know what to do with enya right now. she always lived in a pack of dogs.
maybe i need to find her an elderly rescue to keep her company.
she is not handling this very well. she is making me nervous too.
she didn't want to go into the van today without ian, she was panicking.
i knew this would happen when one of them would die.
the cat threw something of the table and she is hiding somewhere now.
so insecure on her own.

If Enya's always been used to having other dogs around then getting a senior rescue might be helpful as it sounds like she's feeling a bit lost.
Hugs

I think that might be an excellent idea. You would need to do a slow introduction of course and find spine that is a good match for her as none will be Ian but maybe it would help both of you.

Some info that may help you and Eyna with the grieving process -

Grieving dogs – how to help:

http://www.veterinarypartner.com/Content.plx?A=1400

http://www.petplace.com/dogs/grief-in-dogs/page1.aspx

http://dogblog.dogster.com/2010/08/2...chael-w-fox-2/

http://dogs.about.com/od/petloss/a/d...nother-dog.htm

enya is still the same today. i never had 2 dogs with such a strong bond before.
the rescue sites where i was looking do have mostly big dogs and some staffords and spoiled terriers with a big ego.
not suitable for enya.
we walk a lot and we will see what will happen the next days.
thank you for thinking about us!

Hi Iris, just checking in to see how you and Enya are doing.

I hope she is starting to make some adjustment progress and not feel so sad.

hugs

last sunday i finally managed to get her into the car on her own.
i always lifted ian into the van first and enya jumped by herself.
i drove to the beach because it was a cooler day and we walked and took a bath/swim for 2 hours.
it was very emotional to walk there without ian.
today she is back to being skittish.
instead of sleeping with her brother, she is sleeping under my bed now.
bought her a soft doggy bed with ian's blanket in it.
i hope her nerves will settle down a bit, cause it makes me nervous too.
i hope molly is doing ok.

Oh I'm glad you and Enya where able to get out and enjoy the outdoors and walks at the lake again. I'm sure that was a good thing for both of you.

Molly is doing good, thanks for asking. She has her moments, but I'd say over all she is her same diva self. :)

it is very hot and humid, so no car rides for us today [no airco].
hopefully a drive to the seaside this sunday.
molly indeed sounds like a real diva. i bet she wants you to call her "'your highness"'............

Hi Iris,

I have been traveling and returned a few days ago from Europe and am catching up.

Firstly I am so incredibly sorry your Ian has passed - my deepest sympathies!!!!

I too had two dogs that were "joined at the hip" (brother and sister) and when Clancy passed, Mytilda went through many of the behaviors Enya is going through. It was rough for her (and heartbreaking for us) and she was so skittish and unsettled for more than a month. It seems she could not understand what happened to him and her strong pack member was no longer there and her "pack position" had changed. We tried every distraction for the first couple of weeks and nothing worked. We finally ended up just letting her go through her grieving process and sort out what her position was in our pack but was always there to comfort her and we always kept the routine the same ---- even made sure she was never alone. Over time her normal habits returned and was happy again, but I will say she was never the same.

Terry

PS -- IMO getting another dog may not be the best for her just now. One thing may be good to do is go through some little training periods for her - such as asking her to do one thing like sit several times a day (give a treat and make a great fuss on how good she is). This may reinforce your relationship, increase her confidence and give very positive feedback to her.