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You are doing wonderful Addy. Ive lost Woody 3 months now and I'm still putting on a brave face. It comes in waves so I've learned to just ride them
Hugs x
sending you hugs Addy.
love
Sharlene
I thought perhaps that might be misunderstood. The Addy I know has marched right through all that had to be done, taken care of Koko being able to say goodbye, said her goodbye, prepared for the final resting place, etc. In between she has allowed her own feelings to come up and accepted them, shared them with others, let others "in," exposed herself.
The flashbacks go with the turf. They are memories we wish we could wipe away. We wish those moments never happened. But we don't get to choose. Once we accept the whole package, it will all start to settle down. The bad will begin to cease to bother us. The warm fuzzy feelings will become more prominent.
What I was trying to express was my pride in how gracefully you are walking through all of this. Not that if you were having more difficulty would I think less of you, I just am in awe of you as a Mom to Zoe and Koko, a grandmother to Kate, a daughter to your Mom....and on and on. And pleased to hear, read that you are seeming to take care of yourself. You are letting the meltdowns come. You are writing. You are feeling. You are walking through this, not around it. I know this is very hard. I in no way meant to minimize that. I KNOW how much Zoe means to you. I know how big of a loss this is for you. And you've got me on your shoulder so long as you have a shoulder!:)
Love,
Sus
I feel the same way, Addy, I am in such awe of you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bailey's Mom
Dear Addy
It is okay to let it out. You are going through a very tough time, the grief, the loss, the shock. Keep writing, let us be here for you, a shoulder to lean on, a ear that understands only too well.
Hugs Sonja and Angel Apollo
Well I have a piece of absolutely useless trivia to share with you today, it came in one of those feel good emails that I usually direct straight into the trash can but I read it anyway and then thought of you ....
1. Smiling can make you happy (even when you're not).
Remember that mind-body connection we were just talking about? Well, it turns out that the simple act of smiling sends a message to your brain that you're happy. And when you're happy, your body pumps out all kinds of feel-good endorphins. This reaction has been studied since the 1980s and has been proven a number of times. In 1984, an article in the journal Science showed that when people mimic different emotional expressions, their bodies produce physiological changes that reflect the emotion, too, such as changes in heart and breathing rate. Another German study found that people felt happy just by holding a small pen clenched in their teeth, imitating a smile.
Just remember that the research goes both ways. When the people in the first study frowned, they felt less happy, and in the German study, people who held a pen in their protruding lips, imitating a pout, felt unhappy. So the next time you feel sad or upset, try smiling. It just might make your body—and therefore you—feel better.
So when you are feeling sad dear Addy, pop a pen in your mouth and imitate a smile... god have you ever read anything so ridiculous LOL... :p xxx
Addy:
Thinking of you and sending prayers your way. Blessings
Patti
I understand what you mean, Addy. I relive those last moments of Alivia's life over and over and sometimes I picture it all at unexpected times. Those memories are very painful, but on the other hand, I don't want to forget anything about Alivia. Grief is a strange thing.
Sending hugs.
Hugs from us.:)