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Naomi,
I am laughing about the socks :-)
That's great! Maybe Frasier is saving the one remaining sock for when you meet in Heaven?
Wonderful idea to save one item that has Frasier's smell for Oz. I'm sure that is the reason why he's laying where Frazier used to. It surely gives him comfort to smell him.
One day at a time is all any of us can do. Hugs Naomi.
Sharlene and Molly Muffin
Hi Naomi,
Sending you and sweet Ozzie tons of love and healing hugs. We are all blessed to have had Fraser in our lives through you. I miss him too! Xxxx
Hi Naomi
I have to laugh as I keep imagining that US TV show Frasier when I see people do typo's on Fraser's name!! I loved that show and it always made me giggle :D:D My niece's partner is named Fraser too, so I always think of your sweet boy when I catch up with them.
For sure keep the photo's up so you can see him, all my screensavers and backgrounds on lappy, phone etc are of Flynn too, but no pics on the wall of him, I must remedy that at some stage! So pleased Fraser is home with you guys again, sad thing to have to go back to the vets for that though. Your doing great Naomi, if it was me I would not say anything at work. Sometimes when I am on the verge of tears it only takes someone to say something kind and the floodgates open. So avoidance is my tactic there :p xx
Naomi,
Reading about Fraser and your socks brought tears to my eyes too. What a sweet little rascal. Thinking of you and Oz, and sending love and big hugs.
Tina and Jasper xo
HI Naomi
Another week has flown by and I am sitting here hoping that you are doing OK. I now have a week off to do all those jobs that seem to not get done during the short weekends!! Hope your hanging in there and Oz is doing ok too xxxx
Hi Naomi,
I have been away from the forum for a bit. I just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you. I know it was a hard decision you had to make for sweet Fraser. :(
I hope Oz is starting to feel better & giving mama lots of love.
hugs..
Naomi,
I am so terribly sorry to read the sad news about Fraser. He was a truly amazing dog and how wonderful that he left the socks for you.
I too have photos and screensavers of Hamish - I hope that when you look at them they remind you of the many happy times you spent together.
You and Oz are in my thoughts
Hi everybody, thanks so much for the well wishes, we are actually doing remarkably ok. With all the photos I have of the gorgeous boy, his photos on my wallpaper for phone and ipad, and now saved as my computer desktop too, I always have him close to me. Every time I look at his pic I remember something about him, I can now talk about him with just a catch in my voice rather than a full breakdown and can talk about memories etc with some laughs. He was a beautiful boy and will always be loved.
My dad made a customised box for his ashes with his name etched into the front as well and then sealed and varnished it so it can't be opened. That way I know he is always safe and he sits underneath his photo. Every now and then I'll hold the box and stare at him but it's gotten a lot easier.
I guess because I knew so far in advance that there was just nothing I could do for him to make it better, and nothing that I would subject him to that would make him suffer more, that the grieving process started a long time ago, possibly even 8 months ago I guess when I knew he was on the downhill path. While I miss him terribly and always will, it doesn't hurt as much anymore. I understand people now when they say there is that sense of relief that comes with terminal patients knowing they are no longer suffering. While I still wish I hadn't had to make that decision, I'm glad that I got to say goodbye, that I was with him at the end and that I had had a few days before to spend solely without leaving him at any time. In those last few days, he came everywhere with me or I stayed home. I promised him I wouldn't leave and I didn't. We had our time together and it was special, and I'll always know that he left me those socks to find one day :p
Ozzie is also doing pretty well too now. He is thrilled to get out and go for his walk every day. He did put on a little bit of weight but is self regulating again and loosing it now so he is returning to his beautiful trim form. He is pretty happy on a day to day basis, and when I think we both need it, I pull out Fraser's red tartan jacket to hug and smell. It hangs very carefully in my closet where it is safe from the rest of the family dogs during visits.
I took Oz back to the vet for the first time yesterday (to get some anti inflammatories for his knee - arthritis has set in 12 months post cruciate surgery) and he did well. He was very nervous and unsure to start with but with lots of cuddles and reassurance he was ok. He even ate the liver treat, so that's good.
All in all, three and a half weeks seems like a lifetime ago, but he is still with me every day. I swear sometimes I can hear him grumping at me as he did, and I'm positive he was digging for his ball in the car the other day! I had to turn around to see what was going on! So I know he is with me still and he is watching us both and taking care of us both. Knowing that I keep moving forward and know that it will continue to get a little bit easier each day, but I can smile at the memories now and laugh at what a fool he could be, rather than fall apart at the first thought. He will always remain my beautiful Soggy Doggy!
Oh Naomi, we all love Soggy Dogdy too.
Hugs to you and Oz and I am glad you are holding on and I hope Oz has adjusted as well.
Love you both