Introducing Fraser - our sweet Fraser has crossed The Bridge

Oh Naomi, my heart breaks in two reading your post. It is so hard to know what to do. I do remember reading a book by Patricia McConnell or some dog trainer. She always helped her dogs cross at home and then allow her other dogs closure by being able to be there and smell their dear friend. But words written in books are sometimes not the real world for some of us who's emotions run so deep and perhaps it is not something we can bear to go through and that is okay too. I understand when you say you don't want to see Fraser put in a bag but sometimes compassionate vets will carry them from the home and do that part outside away from you.
It is what I have planned for Zoe, if I am able to give her that but sometimes plans change.

We follow our hearts through our journeys and our hearts will guide us at the end even though they are broken.

Sending love and prayers and strength from across the ocean and please know how much we all care for you and Fraser and Oz.

Follow your heart, dear Naomi as you always have.

Dear Naomi
My heart breaks for you. I am angel Apollo's mom, He died in my arms a month before his 14Th birthday last year, in September. NO one can tell you what to do. I can only share my experience. I talked to Apollo the month before he died and asked if he wanted to go and said how much I loved him. I knew things were not right with his intestines, we went to the vet and he said Apollo was dying and just take him home and love and care for him. We took the weekend to go to all the places we went to with him often knowing it was the last time. It was like he knew , he was so proud and strong for us that weekend. things got worse, he stopped eating, so I knew he was giving up. I could not make that decision, Apollo made it for me. But during that month, I looked into my options and got prepared. I would have had it at home if I had to do it. I did not want him to be in a strange place. I had him cremated because I have no place to bury him. We had a little memorial for him before he was cremated to honor him. I asked for lockets of his fur, which I have in a locket around my neck. I also had his paw print done. Talk to Fraser, he will let you know when it is time. You will do the right thing, he knows it. I prayed every day before he died hoping for a miracle, but that was not to be. We are here for you. You don't have to do this alone. Just for today Frasier is here. Treasure each day you still have with him. He is such an angel.
Hugs Sonja and Angel Apollo

Naomi, My heart breaks for you. My Annie had a tough time when Haley passed and I sat with her and had a long talk. I don't know if it helped her but it helped me a bit. It's so hard. You will do what is best I am confident. We'll be thinking of you and sending you strength. Kim

Naomi,
I'm crying as I type this. You will know what to do. I agree that having this done in Fraser's favorite spot with Oscar with you sounds so peaceful and having Oscar there might help you as well. We all know that humans tend to underestimate or furlets.

I believe that having Oscar there would help him too and he won't be wondering where Fraser went.

Prayers and comfort for all of you.

Dear Naomi,
I will do my best to put my thoughts into words for you. I am doing this through tears, so please bear with me. As you know, I released Buddy a few months ago. That is something that no one should ever have to do. I was where you are now and it's a crappy place to be. Buddy let me know when he was in pain. Releasing our babies is the ultimate act of love. We take on their pain knowing that we will never be the same again. You will know when the time is right. Frazier will let you know. As for Ozzie, do what you feel is right at the time. Try not to overthink it, just go with your gut and you can't go wrong.

Sending you tons of love and strength. We are with you. You are never alone. Please keep talking. Knowing that the angels were with me and I wasn't ever truly alone, helped me get through a couple of really tough weeks. We are here for you too. Xxxxxxx

Thinking of you, Fraser and Ozzie this morning.
Hugs,
Leslie and the gang

Naomi:
Just wanted to let you know I m praying for you and your baby. Blessings
Patti

Well this just sucks. I wish I had some words of wisdom that will help you at this time. All that keeps going through my head is how lucky Fraser and Oz are to have you in their life. They struck the lottery the day you decided to bring them home Naomi. It's school holidays here too, so glad you have some time to spend with your boys right now before you have to make the decision none of us wants to make.

Re Oz, I only know how Flynn reacted when I had to put the cats to sleep. He had been with them his whole life too, when the time came I did not take him to the vet while they were put to sleep but when I brought them home to be laid to rest in our pet cemetery at Mum and Dad's where all our cats are buried I showed him them. He gave them a good sniff over then horrified us by going over and helping Dad dig the grave :eek::eek:, he must have thought the digging looked a bit of fun! From what I could tell he did not pine for them, he was particularly close to our Nala too. Maybe it is different with a cat sister and brother then it would be if it was another dog. But he did not seem to miss them, I thought it a bit heartless to be honest but then reminded myself not to put human emotions onto him! Oz is lucky to have your sister and Gracie to go to during the day, he won't be alone so that is good.

I think Fraser is entitled to feel a little crotchety if some other dog takes his toy! He still feeling up to telling that dog to back up stinker that's MINE! That makes me smile, good on ya Fraser!

Big hugs for you Naomi and for the sweetie boys too xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Naomi,
I'm so terribly sorry that you are facing this decision. As Kathy says it takes immense love and courage to make the decision to say goodbye. I can't help with how to make it easier for Ozzie but suggest you talk to your vet and discuss some of the suggestions others have made.
Thinking of you all

Naomi:
Just thinking and praying for you and your baby. Blessings
Patti