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Just dropped by to tell you that we're thinking of you all.
I think it can be therapeutic to help others when we're grieving. When we lost Hamish I found it very helpful to take some of his things to the local SPCA as I knew they would help other dogs.
Oh gosh yes. I can't get rid of mollys things right now. Not her beds and stuff. I'm going to vacuum pack it I think.
I was looking at the local shelters and rescues this week to see about taking over some canned food, prescription that I know would cost them loads of money, and instead I see all the precious animals up for adoption and it just broke my heart. I do need to do that though.
Oh golly, sorry no I wasn't suggesting you should get rid of Molly's stuff. Please don't think I was.
I still have some of Hamish's toys and his favourite bed, but I took food, meds, other pills, shampoos, plus other toys, beds, towels, blankets, etc. and it did make me feel better knowing the dogs there would be more comfortable as a result.
I still can't get rid of anything of Lee's...even her meds as much as I hated having her on them. They have her name on the bottles...and it's kind of a journal of what was wrong and when.
No one will be wearing her Halloween shirt of Christmas dresses, those will be packed away with other mementos.
Sibbie has a brand new Halloween costume (2 in fact, as both grandsons wanted something different), but I will probably dress Doree in the other as she loves to get dressed up.
I still have the last batch of food I made for Squirt in the freezer, some of her meds in the cabinets tho they are long expired...I just can't throw them out yet, can't. I have taken that food out I know 50 times then end up standing there with the freezer door open, tears flowing, rubbing the package, seeing her face watching me as I made a batch. Back in the freezer it goes. I just can't....
No I didn't think you were suggesting that at all! I was just saying there where some things I can't get rid of, but some things I do need to get rid of, that can help others.
We're good, just the normal typing misunderstanding. I understood what you meant. :)
I still have Bo's newborn toy packed with his ashes in a memento box. I go to that toy and just smell it sometimes and remember the days he would shake it around and then end up sleeping on it....we gave it the name "Flat Stanley". Just brings back the great memories I have. Looking at the stars tonight knowing they are out watching over us. ((((HUGS)))) to you, Sharlene!!
Sharlene, Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you.
It's been over 3 years since Scoop passed and I still have his things.
Good. Just hated the thought that I might have upset you.Quote:
Originally Posted by molly muffin
Dear Sharlene
Now is not the time to be thinking about getting rid of Molly's things. You are right in the middle of grieving and can not think straight. It can wait. When Apollo died the only thing I could get rid of was all the medications. I put some of the medications and food aside and gave them away when I was ready. But you do not have to do it today. I was hysterically throwing all the bottles away, screaming at the top of my lungs. I went through him not eating the last week of his life, trying to get him to eat. When he was really getting ready to die. I finally gave him permission to go. After he died.I would run around the house and just fall on his beds and try to smell his scent. I was so numb I could not think straight. I still have most of Apollo's things and will get rid of a few things when I am ready. You are not ready to let go. It can wait. Let the feeling come out. Just sit with it. You just lost your little girl. You and Daniel need time to heal. Please do not feel you have to do it all now. When the time is right you will keep what you want and give the rest away. But not today. You need to shut the world out and grieve . It is too soon to do any of this.
What I am saying ,you need to grieve in your own way. You need to be kind to yourself and Daniel right now, nothing else. Do not listen to other people. Love always, from one Canadian to another.
Love Sonja and Apollo