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Hi all....
Hope everyone is well. I've been keeping busy working like a maniac but took the day off today and it was really hard. I keep thinking Lucy is still here. I got her ashes today and that was harder than I thought it would be. I still haven't been able to bring myself to even EMPTY HER WATER BOWL! Not to mention her bed in my room with all her babies on it. Trying not to put a time line on things, but is this normal?
Oh yes... you are very normal. I remember the day my dear Haley came back to me in a box. My heart broke all over again. I wasn't ready for it. It took me months to move her things. Take your time and heal in your own way. And come here whenever you want to talk about it.
I want to thank you for sharing your journey with dear Lucy with us. Her story truly is inspirational and she, along with you are pioneers. She is still a hero in my eyes.
I wish I could take away the pain and fill the void.... only time my friend... only time. Huge hugs, Kim
Hi Gina,
I am so sorry you lost your Lucy girl. I know the pain is just to the bone now. For me, there is no pain that matches the pain of losing a dog.
You and Lucy are heroes and trailblazers.
Down the road, I believe you are going to look back and be very thankful for all of the extra, beautiful, quality time you were given with Goo. You know Lucy doesn't want you to be distraught for too long. Like a girl at WalMart told me very matter-a-factly, "all dogs go to heaven."
Ken
It's been two and a half years since Chris passed away and his insulin is still in the refrigerator and a few of his toys in my closet and some of his bowls in a cupboard in the kitchen. Plus his pictures are all over my desk. There's no deadline for any of these things Gina - do what feels right for you.
Natalie
Gina - There is no normal when it comes to these things. Like Nat, I still have all of Zoe's medicines in my pantry and her bottle of anti-seizure meds in my frig. And we've moved in the interim! Her two favorite stuffed animals are in a wooden box in the LR. I take them out and let Cooky sniff them, but cannot bring myself to let her play with them. And it'll be a year next week. So whatever feels right for you IS right for you. The tears decrease over time, but I still go thru spells where they will come several days in a row, and then I'm ok for awhile.
You are in the very early stages of grieving and, IMO, I say let the tears flow whenever they want to. I found it very therapeutic with Zoe (and with KC before her) to get a journal and write down all of those special things that they did - good or bad or funny OR just plain quirky. One time incidents, habitual things, memories of their early days and their later ones. physical characteristics (like I wrote of how sweetly Zoe's tail curled to the left and how I grew to 'love' that huge melon sized lipoma on her left side, even though it made her look lop-sided). Write down all of your memories . . . everything. And keep the journal close at hand for awhile because sometimes you'll be doing something and, seemingly out of the blue, you'll remember something that you forgot to write down. Here it is, 11 years later, and I still get out KC's journal every now and then ..... sure, I read it and weep - but now it brings way more SMILEs than tears. Plus, I jotted down things in KC's journal that I know I would've forgotten by now - if I hadn't put them in writing. It really does help....... Sue
Hi Gina,
I've been away from the board for a bit and just came back to read this; so sorry to hear about Lucy Goo's passing. We all know you fought real hard for her.
There is no "timetable" in terms of grieving; there are still moments when I get choked up and it's been 4 months now. It's going to take some time for you to adjust and things will never quite be the same.
I still have not removed all of my Mandy's things; her coats, leash and harness are still where they have always been. I don't know why it's so hard to do this last task, but it just is. Her urn is in my bedroom and I talk to her every now and then...usually about Pebbles (my new puppy)...I like to think she's watching over things :)
You'll take care of things when it feels right to do so.
Jeff & Angel Mandy
I am so sorry to hear about Lucygoo. Please feel me hugging you.
Lynne, Bailey and Angel Clyde
Gina,
I'm so sorry for the devastating loss of your Lucy. She was and always will be an inspiration to us all, as are you. Grief has no timeframe, whatever gets you through one moment to the next, to the next, and the moment after that is completely individual.
There is no doubt in my mind that the Goo is watching over you.
Much love and many hugs,
Jane, Franklin and Angel Bailey xxx
Dear Gina,
You and Goo have been on my mind and I hope you are finding the days a bit easier to face.
Many hugs,
Leslie and the gang
Hi Gina-
I am so sorry to learn that you had to release Lucy Goo.
I can echo the "There is no timetable" sentiment. It's been just over 6 months since Palmer was released and just yesterday, while only half awake, I know I felt him up against my tummy. I don't cry as much now, but it still comes. I told my son last night when he asked if I was getting excited about Bailey that, yes I was very excited, but at the same time I was sad. It points out how Palmer is not here....and I still miss him so very much.
You did all and more of what could be done for Lucy. Have peace and trust your body to let you know what you need. After Palmer had been gone for about 6 weeks and when everybody was out of the house, I buried my head in a pillow and cried and cried and sobbed. I tried to let whatever was in there come out. I found it helpful.
My thoughts are with you.
-Susan