Buddy, The Mighty Lizard Hunter - Suspected Pituitary Macro Tumor

All I can say if those pups are lucky enough to find a mama like you, then they will forever be grateful! Sometimes being able to give and receive love again helps the heart heel...perhaps this is a sign from Buddy letting his mama know she has too much love to keep just to herself ;)

xoxox,
Kerry

A yorky poo, sounds different.

I feel blessed to have Tia's brother still with me and he has helped me. So if you want to go see them, then I think that's great.

Big hug

Mel
Xxxxx

Oh Kathy, visiting puppies trumps fireworks any day!!!! :) :) :)

It isn't going to happen. I posted that last message before I finished it. The puppies are both females. One of them is a runt which I would not want because they often have health problems. I would name her Rosebud after my Buddy. But, it's dreaming only. It has only been two days and I know there's no way I can convince the folks to go along with this. I don't need them adding more pressure right now. It's hard to stay afloat as it is.

Sorry babe. Sending you some more hugs. Again wish it was a real one

Kathy:
I know you are all over the place with your thinking now, but I think this might just help you through this rough time. The Rosebud part made my eyes well up thinking of Buddy. This would keep you busy and not thinking sad thoughts. I know Buddy would want you to be happy, and if these pups need someone there isn't a better mom they could get. I support you in whatever helps you through this. I think you are doing a wonderful job at putting one foot in front of the other, and forging on. You are giving it your all, just as you gave Buddy your all. God Bless you. Do what your heart tells you to do. I hope I can be as gracious as you when I need to be.
Patti

I dont think there is a mandated time limit- two days, two weeks, two months-sweetie, you follow your heart; sometimes things happen for a reason. It is all about what is best for you and that is what Buddy would want as well, what is best for you.:):)

Maybe it isn't about you finding Rosebud but rather Rosebud finding you. Things happen for a reason they say. Your call Kathy. Happy 4th. Kim

Just nipping into say night. I have to get up early so will be back to see if you are on later

Tight hug to you Kathy

Mel
Xxxxx

Awww Kathy, I know your emotions are all over the place, just like I imagine that your parents emotions are all over the place too. If you want to go visit the puppies, (two sounds divine, I wish I'd done that) then take your parents or one of them with you. My parents could never say no to puppies or kittens once they saw them. LOL

You know after Tasha died, it took me a year before I found Molly via a rescue. Oh I think I was ready before, but I had to convince hubby who thought he wasn't a dog guy. (duh, he was sooo wrong). I have however, Never wanted another cat after Tipsy, he was my everything. Yet, I have had pets pass away and within a week had more running around the house. You just don't know what life brings to your doorstep and they were always, except for Tasha, rescues that just needed a home. How could I say no.

I don't think it made a bit of difference how long I waited, grief takes it's own time. Sometimes I was still sad, but there was nothing like having another little one in the house who needed attention, and who would play and be dorky, to make me smile through the tears and I found that the tears started to come less often. That I would laugh and think of something that Tasha did or Divinity and while a pang of sadness might come, the tears didn't always.
I don't think there are set rules for the heart. I think a heart as open and loving as yours will tell you when or if and how you open the door of it to other little ones.
So whatever you do or don't do. It is what is going to be what is right for you today, now. Tomorrow may be different. Who knows. :)

hugs,
Sharlene and Molly Muffin

Oh goodness Kathy, Rosebud sounds so sweet named for Buddy, I got Simba when my dog Belle was getting older, so I would never be without a furbaby....I don't think you can put a time limit on grieving, some days I still think of my first dog Belle and shed a few tears..just follow your heart and everything will work out, sending hugs sweet Mama!

Kathy, I am checking back in. How are you doing? Oh gosh, puppies! I completely agree with the sentiments that Addy and Sharlene posted. When I lost my precious Dakota, I already had Jasper to help me through, and to help him through because he grieved also. There is no time limit and I know you will follow your heart when the time is right.

More hugs,
Tina

No puppy for now. My folks will eventually come around, but right now they will have no part of it. Life with 80+-year-olds is often a challenge anyway. I do not want to make it any harder. The loss of losing Buddy is just way too raw for them right now. I need more time to pass so that I can wear them down, so they are willing to entertain the idea. A puppy needs to feel wanted by every member of the family.:o:(

Kathy

If it were up to me, I would go and pick up my new puppy. Rosebud would join my family here and now. But, I have others to consider and responsibilities that never end. I don't often get to do what I really want, but with Buddy around, it was always okay. Now he isn't and I feel cheated.

The parrot over the fence in the next yard has been making all kinds of noise trying to get Buddy to react. Buddy normally runs along the fence barking when he hears the bird. The parrot has been yelling,screeching, squawking, and talking to no avail. He hears me outside and thinks Buddy is there too.:(

Aww Kathy, (((hugs))). There are so many reminders of Buddy because he was such a big part of your life. And I so understand how you feel cheated. It is not easy caring for elderly parents, that is a huge responsibility. Having Buddy there made things alright.

I will check back in later Kathy, I need to wait until most of these fireworks are over. :mad:

Go take care of Jasper Tina. That's what us mommies do! We ease our baby's worries. Thank you for taking a break to check on me.:)

I can't bring a puppy into a home where it is not wanted. My folks don't feel about fur babies the way I do. Xxxxxx

Oh Kathy :-)
Puppies are so tempting aren't they?

Dad and I recently met and snuggled 2 adorable Doxie sisters:-)
I told him that now wasn't the time. We agreed that we wouldn't stress Daisy out like that.

The perfect time will come and you'll know it.

This would be the perfect time for me. It is summer and I'm off. However it's not the perfect time for my folks and I have to respect that.:( It is just so dang quiet and solemn without any fur babies in the house. Buddy had an enormous presence. He was always smack dab in the middle of everything! It feels like all the joy drained out of my house and my life when Buddy died. It would be better if I was working. At least I would have the kids at school who need me. My folks need me in a much different way. I am willing to stand up to my responsibilities and I have been doing that. I love my folks, they are good people, but I need more. Buddy filled that void. He is gone and I feel empty inside.

Back from my mother's house..had to do a quick check in to see how you've been doing.
It looks like you've had lots of posts to keep you busy..also looks like you're still not getting much sleep. :( I understand that though...it's hard to fall asleep with all the emotions you're feeling.
Wow...those puppies do sound sweet. I was thinking that the summer is a good time for you as your are home for awhile.
I hope you get a pup as soon as you can/want. The summer is such good timing for you. By the time school would start back up you would have a new pup pretty well acclimated. So many dogs are in need....you can easily find one who needs you like crazy! They are there just waiting to be loved and give love right back.
As for your parents...well...the thing is they say they don't want it now but having a pet around is so good for the elderly.
My mom-who is 93 was very confused and was acting really batty this evening but when I put Trixie on the bed she immediately calmed down and got her bearings..(well for a little while at least)! :confused:
Well...I'm sure somehow it will work out but you should have that joy of a dog back in your life as soon as you want. I love the name you've chosen if you end up with a female...Rosebud..so sweet and a lovely way to honor Buddy.
Barbara

Hi Kathy, how are you doing? I feel sad that you are feeling that this would be the perfect time for you to get a new puppy but your parents are holding you back. I guess I just want you to be happy, and you have so much love to give.

The fireworks are winding down a bit here, but still going on. I know many people have a long weekend with the holiday, but I have to work in the morning, so better try to get some sleep. It has been a long night. I will try to check in when I am up for Jasper's middle of the night pit stop.

Tina

Hi Kathy, Hi Tina!

I am home and hurray it's the weekend!! Friday night here and I am staying home, yay!! Such a busy week, so I am happy I have a quiet weekend. I am just about to ring Cooper's Mum to check how his surgery went today! Poor lil boy lost his jewels as you put it Kathy :D

I wanted another dog too, but as you know my parents have Flynn through the day while I work and they have told me it would be too much for them to have a new puppy so if I got one it would have to stay at home :( so that idea is out for a while. I have not got another puss either since my two passed last year. Did not think Flynn would like a new cat on the scene and I miss not having a cat around, although we do have to contend with Elle, she is coming with me when I go pick up Flynn after his BP check and vet visit next Tuesday so the vet can give her the pill :D:D:D Mum wants a professional to do it, as she thought I too rough :eek: I was not, she is just a witch spitting it out like that! :eek:

Thank you Tina for being there today. I hope that Jasper did okay with the fireworks. They are still going crazy loud here. Buddy would've been terrified. We would've been spending the night in the bathroom. It's interesting how there can be so many when they are illegal in California. Except for public displays, of course. Yes, I am bummed about the puppy, But I don't want to bring one in the house that will not be wanted. Puppies are puppies. They cry and make noise and my folks have to be on board with it, or I can't do it. That is just the way it is. If I give it some time, they may come around. Big hugs and thanks again.

I'm glad that your home to talk to me Trish and it's not so late. Did you get a chance to talk to Cooper's mom yet? I'm sure that he's feeling a tad bit lighter!:D Poor little chap! Buddy was fixed too.

Yes, I really need a puppy. I could housebreak it and get it started training before I go back to work in September, but the folks would have to be on board with it, and they aren't. So I'm out of luck. They don't feel the same way about dogs as I do. A dog is just a dog it's not your child. They don't get it. They did not understand why I spent so much money and worked so hard to keep Buddy going and happy. There really is no support even now. Yes they loved Buddy and they're both grieving. Buddy had a way of warming himself and everybody's hearts. However, they don't want to do it again. It sucks!

Kathy, you're welcome. Today was no day for you to be alone, glad I could be here. Still a bit anxious here as fireworks are still going off, but I must try to go to bed. Jasper will be up in just a couple of hours to go out with all that he has been drinking tonight.

Hi Trish!! Glad I could catch you real quick before I hit the hay for a bit! Yay, it is the weekend for you. I have to work in the morning, but its only one day, and then weekend!!

Big hugs. Nite girls, probably see you a bit later.

Mel,
I want to tell you goodbye just in case I miss you later. Have a wonderful trip. Make sure you give Boycie lots of belly rubs for me. I don't know what I would've done without you and Trish being there through so many long nights. I have no one here that understands any of it. They don't understand that I need a fur baby to love as much as one needs to be loved. Buddy was my reason for living. He was my life, my love and my reason to go on. Now he's gone and I can't have another one to love. At least not now. It tears my heart out. Check in when you get back. I will miss you. Thank you so much for asking Tia to watch out for Buddy and scoop. Big hugs and kisses.

I think they get so attached to them and they are going through the heartbreak of losing them. Mum and Dad had a much loved cat Tigger, she was a stray and just arrived at their house. They had a another cat at the time and Dad took no pity on Tigger and said she couldn't stay. But that cat knew a great forever home when she found one which was helped by Mum sneaking her out food when Dad was not watching. So she kinda wore him down, she just would not go even when old Max gave her the marching orders :D:D She wormed her way in that Tigger!! Dad grew to love her and she was with them many years. When she passed a couple of years back they were heartbroken and swore they would not have another. Then Elle's owners decided they were moving to Australia and she needed a home, Mum had met her previously and loved her the first time she saw her. But I had to work real hard with them before they agreed to have her, I have had to promise I would take care of her if she outlived them which she will as she is only just turned 3 and they are like your parents with Mum 78 and Dad 80! But they would not be without her now, and boy does Elle LOVE them, I am pleased she is with them to share her furry if haughty love :):) So maybe your parents just need a bit longer to grieve Buddy, then maybe your new baby might have to arrive as a stray (even if its not :D:D) then if she is there they won't be able to turn it down!! I'm a bit sneaky like that :eek:!

Night Tina, you Jasper and Shelby sleep tight now! xx

Yes, they are heartbroken over Buddy and don't want to ever do it again. Buddy used to follow my dad around like a little shadow. Neither of them wanted me to take him to the vet to have him released. They knew he was in pain but they did not want to see it. Right now my home is like a morgue. It's quiet, it's sad, and there is no joy. I have the whole summer off. I thought I was going to be spending it with Buddy. Now I want to be anywhere but here. No work, no kids, vet bills, no summer income, no Buddy, nothing except heartache.

Thank you for your note. I am here until about this time tomorrow morning. I woke up early to try and get some admin done before the day starts

Its so tough that you are in this no win position. I get having to be responsible for the parents, hopefully they will mellow about a new dog soon when they also realise how much you miss your Buddy Boy.

I like trishs idea of pretending it's a stray!

Big hug
Mel
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For a little guy he obviously had a very big presence and impacted them too, it must have been so hard if they were saying to you not to take him. You knew him Kathy, I never wanted to take Tia either but I knew I had to, cause its always about them not us

Sending you a tighter hug
Mel
Xxxx

Just got off the phone to Cooper's Mum, she sends her condolences to you too Kathy xxxxx she remembered you had sent a kind message to her when he was so suddenly sick last Sunday. Poor Coops is not feeling too happy, giving little cry's and trying to lick at his wounds. She has a collar for him if needed but she is keeping a close eye on him, he has eaten and had pain relief and while she was talking to me he curled himself up and dropped off to sleep. She said he was giving her sad looks like why am I so sore!! I said ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh that's the stink eye :D I heard that description on here and have used it heaps since. But all in all the wee pup sounds just fine!

I know Mel, but Buddy was only 10 years old. They thought he would outlive them. They have lost many beloved dogs over the years and did not want to go through that ever again. I understand that. It just puts me in a really difficult position.

KATHY PACK YOUR BAGS AND FLY TO NEW ZEALAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bed here for you my sweet!! Might be a bit chilly for a California girl likw you. But it is only a 12 hr flight to Auckland from LA then another 1hr to me, you could be here in time for brunch :D:D:D and me and Flynny will come pick you up and take you to the beach for a walk :D:D

I'm glad that Cooper's doing so well. I think they overmedicated buddy when he lost his jewels. When I picked him up to go home he could not walk and he was really a mess. The next morning he was fine and running all over the place.

I can imagine. It's so bloody unfair Kathy

It's all so raw and you are all still probably in shock as none of you thought you would lose him so soon. Hopefully with time they will soften and if not then you will have to have words with them to say now you need a dog to balance your life

I've always wanted to go somewhere, anywhere Trish. New Zealand sounds so exotic and wonderful, even if it is cold. At least I would be able to feel something. You don't know how tempting that sounds!!!! I've never been out of the continental United States except for Mexico which is right over the border. I can't even imagine fresh fish every Thursday. If I'm lucky, I might get fresh fish once or twice a year and that's only on a special occasion.

Hi Mel... don't think I said hi to you yet tonight, what are we going to do without you for TWO WHOLE WEEKS, but we will manage!! Me and Kathy will keep the home fires burning late at night!!

Hmmm don't think we could be called exotic Kathy, probably quite different to what you are used to though :) I remember whenever I have been in the US they barely understand me, I keep thinking hand on we are both speaking English, but my accent was quite tricky for you lot to understand!! Wish I had gone to Mexico, but the furtherest south I got that way was San Diego which I loved. You should look at some sort of trip though through the summer Kathy, will your parents manage without you for a while??

I might be able to wear them down in time Mel. But now is not the time.

Kathy, I would feed you fresh fish every night if that was what you wanted, cheap as chips here!

Yes Trish, my folks get around pretty well they just need help with some things. My brother lives nearby. He could pick up the slack while I was gone. He certainly should help a lot more than he does anyway.