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What a family. *sigh* Some people make the world a better place and others do not. It's really very sad. I expect they do not expect her to ever go back to it again and plan to put it on the market as soon as it is cleared out. Very sad indeed.
Glad Tipper has had some walks, but might want to consider the benadryl option if allergies are going to be bad for her. She'll feel it more with allergies too since her cortisol is lower.
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Sharlene and molly muffin
Hi Everyone:
The dogs got three walks today. The rain is just pouring and making ponds everywhere. The hail is next, then the snow!! Tipper is napping after all the activity. I just talked to Delora and she is so unhappy and crying. I learned something very unsettling when talking to her. She told me her daughter in law informed her hospice would be coming to see her. She said to me I thought they don't come until you are ready to die? I was silent I could not answer. I am just sick for her, she does not deserve this.I don't think I can go to that church for her service and see that monster son of hers preaching, I am really worried about what to do. We are having a lazy day today, this is all so depressing! Blessings
Patti
Hi Patti, Well, you can tell Delora, that my brother in laws mom is in a nursing home and hospice has been coming to see her for a year now. They help with taking care of her and making her more comfortable. Our Oma is doing okay. Her family comes and gets her for family dinners and other things and she is still kicking. Your time comes when it comes. How horrid though not to have a frank discussion with her about her condition. Obviously if they are clearing out the house they don't think she has long.
Just try to enjoy the day with the furlets. Hopefully it'll warm up tomorrow and melt any snow you get tonight.
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Sharlene and molly muffin
Patti,
some people just suck.
Were you able to tell the nursing home staff about Delora's horrible family?
I'm so glad that the furlets got to walk, it's been pouring rain all weekend and we're expecting snow on Monday. I'm so over winter!
Hi Everyone:
Well Tipper woke up to 5 inches of new snow on top of an all day rain. It is a real mess out there. Tipper had a good nite, but lots of tremors. I just wish I could figure out the mechanism causing this and stop it somehow. It is very hard to watch her do this nite after nite. She woke up with mucus in her eyes again, a and swallowing a lot the last few days. It actually sounds like she had a drink and is swallowing it. Sharlene unfortunately here Medicare will not pay for hospice care for more than 4 months I believe. So Deloras son would never pay for it, and I feel she is on the way out and that they were told and are not telling her. I feel anyone who is dying has the right to know. What if there is something they want to do, or someone they want to see before they pass? They should have that right. It is hard to talk to her as all she does is cry.d I will go over this week, and take her some food as she said she cannot eat their food it is so bad. I hope for her sake she is not there long, and God has mercy on her as I know this is like torture to her. The cat is doing well, I actually think better than when she lived with Delora, and he is just insistent on getting her a new home. I wish he could just keep her. She sits on his lap at nite while he is watching TV. Why would he not want her for some company??? Well it is time for Tipper's pill and atrip outside. Blessings
Patti
my experience with hospices are very good, but they are indeed for the terminal ill persons. they allow pet visits overthere [in nl]
3 walks sounds great.
hope toby will be fine after his treatment today.
sleep well everyone.
Hi Patti,
Not that it's you who can arrange anything for Delora but Medicare pays for Hospice care if a doctor thinks the patient has 6 months or less to live. I don't know if being in a nursing home facility has any bearing on that or not, but coverage is for 6 months.
Hope it wasn't too cold for Tipper to get a walk. It was freezing and raw here this morning...5 inches of snow just East of the city, out near my mother's house. Winter doesn't want to give up.
Trixie did not care that there was an icy drizzle coming down when we walked out the door and cold wind blowing, she pulled straight to the park but I have limits some of the time...and I just could not go all the way there..plus I thought it might start to rain harder so we didn't stay out very long. She was disappointed to come back to the front door, but when we got upstairs I gave her a nice big bag to tear up and she enjoyed that activity very much.
Wish you had an answer to the tremors. I hope Tipper is feeling good today.
Barbara
Patti--no Medicare does not cover home aide care, but Medicaid does. If she has Medicaid an aide for the home can be arranged. It's not exactly complicated, but it's not easy either. You have to have an aide who is medicaid approved...or certified, I don't know if I'm using the right language but it's not like you can go out and find an aide and expect that Medicaid will pay the bill.
Medicare will cover Hospice care but it isn't like what you see on a movie where the hospice workers are there sitting by the bed with the patient. They are great people but they are not there to care for a person all day long, giving meals etc. They come in and out, making sure the person is comfortable, checking vitals, giving pain med...that type of thing.
It is not an easy or inexpensive option to have home care. We paid a fortune for my mother's care giver...believe me it was worth every penny to have such an amazing person to care for my mother so she could stay in her home but it cost a lot of money...and even with her, I covered all day/evening on Sundays and my brother was there for night time too...you need at least 2 people to do the job well. The primary caregiver needs at least a day off...and someone to shop for things...food, supplies etc.. It took 3 of us to keep my mother safely in her home...and one of them was on salary. I hate to say it and I don't know what type of place Delora is in but she's probably better off there with people helping her...unless it's a horrible place. It's so hard...there is a real lack of good places and care for the elderly, especially those that are ill.
I am unsure and have no experience with actual Hospice care centers and don't know if they exist in your area but it may be something to look into if she is very ill.
Barbara
Hi Everyone:
A late post today as I am on a break now. I have to pick Toby up soon. Tipper has the run of the whole house again, so she told me to leave him there. Toby always acts ruff and tough he copies Tipper's behavior, but when it comes down to it he is a cry baby. He was totally upset with no food this morning. He cried and crawled up my legs begging me. Tipper was quietly relishing every moment of it, as she knows that drill too well. He shook and cried all the way to the vets and had a hissy fit inside. He will be starving at 4 when I get him the poor thing. Yorkies as everyone knows have a reputation for getting nasty teeth so I must keep his up. I went and bought Delora a robe and bought her some lunch and took it to her room today. That place is horrible, and she cried. She said the food is horrible and really ate what I brought her like she was starved.She has really declined in this just this amount of time. Guess who went on vacation? I know you all said the son. Correct! I asked the nurse why Delora cannot call out on her phone. She said all the phones are like that, she said Delora can call the nurse and she will bring her a portable phone to use to call out. Her son neglected to tell her that so she could not call him!! Well I sure fixed him I went right back to her room and told her what she has to do to make phone calls. I told her why don't you call you son and ask him to come over??? He will have a kitten and if I ever run into him he will probably start in on me, but this time I will finish it. She was happy to see me and all she did was cry. If I had to stay in a place like that I would cry too. Tipper had a lot of tremors again last nite. I can't believe it will be April and she will have to go back to the hospital for a tumor check. That will ruin the whole month for me as it just makes me sick to wait there to hear her fate. If it stays nice this week I will give her a badly needed bath. She and I are enjoying the sunshine, it sure feels good on your face. I will post later after I get my baby boy home. Blessings
Patti
oh poor Delora. :( I feel so awful for her.
Yes, our Oma was expected to maybe make it a couple weeks and was in a coma. The family went there in April to say their good byes. Then the doctors took her off the IV pain meds, she regained consciousness and has was put on hospice care in the nursing home. I think it is still going, but maybe they took her off it. They thought she probably had a couple months left at that point. Unfortunately, her son, who took care of her and made the arrangments, developed a brain tumor and passed away within a couple months, and Oma is still going and still in the nursing home. Her daughter in law now takes care of things at the home and goes and gets Oma even for the family dinner/outings, so she won't be stuck there. Oma hates the home too, but it isn't an option for her to go anywhere else, the care just isn't enough outside of the home. :(
Is there no other nursing home that is better that could take her? Even an assisted living where they provide meals and help them when they need it would be better perhaps. Of course it is all in the sons hands and I doubt he is going to put any effort into her situation as it doesn't seem like he has in the past.
I'm sure Toby will be starving when you get him. I bet Tipper loves having the whole house to herself!
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Sharlene and molly muffin