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Hi Patti, Sorry you didn't get much sleep last night. Sleep is important for both you and Tipper. It seems she is sleeping but tremors during it. Just a dusting of snow for us over night, so we had a nice walk this morning.
Hope you have a good day and can get some rest.
Sharlene and molly muffin
Hi Everyone:
I didn't post on your threads as I had an emergency with Delora. She called me this morning crying and saying she needs help that she is confused and cannot get dressed. Got her all straightened out and her son is coming to get her and take her to his house. Now I have a cat to take care of again. She spilled a carafe of coffee all over the kitchen. She forgot how to make her bed and dress herself. I was right the cancer has gone to her brain. God Bless her, I have done all I can. I need to be here for my Tipper. Blessings
Patti
Oh Patti, I am so sorry that Delora has deteriorated so badly. That is just a very, very sad situation for her and for you, who have tried so hard to help her as much as you can.
I saw you and Tipper had a walk this morning, so that is good you were able to get out.
hugs
Sharlene and molly muffin
Hi Everyone:
I have had so much bad news today it is incredible. Delora called at 1 pm and told me her son never came to get her and she was hungry and could not get up. I hurried up and threw a pizza in the oven and took her some up. The poor thing, she is pitiful and I could tell her mind was all jumbled up. He did not come until 4:00 after learning his mother forgot how to put her clothes on!! How disgusting is that??? Then I was sitting down watching the news and saw something about a major league pitcher hurting his shoulder. I knew this face and did not hear his name.After constantly thinking of this face I went and did some research. It turns out it was my best friend who I went all through school with, and lost touch with after I moved, it is her son I used to babysit. I was floored, and immediately started searching for his mother online. This was a girl I spent most of my school days with. I couldn't locate her, but found her sister who I was also friends with. I called her only to find out my best friend died of breast cancer. I am devastated. No one knew my new address to tell me. I never got to see her and she was asking for me. I feel terrible and crying all day in disbelief. Her son Scott had just gotten a contract with the Yankees and she was on her death bed. He flew home and before she died he told he he made it to pitch for the Yankees. She died shortly after. He has played for various teams since then and is currently dealing with a shoulder injury. This is definitely one of the saddest days of my life. I just wish I could have hugged her once again. She never got to see her boy play major league baseball. It is very dreary and cold out. It kind of suits my mood. I am hoping Tipper has no bad tremors tonite. I was really not aware they could get this bad. It worries me so much. I pray every nite they go away for good. I don't think Delora will ever come back to her house, so I need to start to find a home for her cat. Blessings
Patti
what is it that you call it in the states? murphy's law.
is there anybody who will take good care of delora when she is at her son's home? we do have organizations called hospices.
they take care of people dying in a home like environment. lots of volunteers.
hope you will have a quiet night with tipper and a lazy sunday with good weather to walk in.
Patti,
I had something similar happen with a good friend of mine. I had no idea that she had cancer until her husband told me that she had passed. I'm so sorry!
Please call your local VNA and tell them of Delora's situation and that she needs proper care asap. Her son will let her sit at his house and do nothing.
Get some rest, ok? Hugs.
Hi Everyone:
Well Delora said she would call me last nite, but she didn't so she either forgot or her son did not give her the phone. I fed her cat this morning, and it was crying for her. The house is as mess from her not being able to get up, if I can I will clean it up tomorrow. I have low energy today. Yesterdays news has had quite an negative affect on me. Tipper had several episodes of tremors as she was going to sleep last nite. It is snowing as I type this and too cold for her to walk. I am very depressed knowing my friend passed and I need to get myself out of this. I do not think Delora will make it to summer, I think she is very close to passing. There is a lot of sadness filling my heart these days, but as always I am blessed with my Tipper. I hope the weather warms up so these dogs can walk. Tipper looks forward to it, and needs the energy burned off. Blessings
Patti
My college roommate has MS - a rare form that has no remissions. We lost touch years ago because her hubby was in the Army and they traveled all over the world but I could learn about her through her sister who lived in town then. After her sister moved, I had no way to find out how she was doing. And based on the last report, she was losing more and more function rapidly.
Last year, my roommate and I reconnected. She is back in ARK and living about an hour away. She is now bedridden, unable to care for herself. At first she begged me to come see her then she would tell me not to come. This has gone on for a year now - begging me to come, then begging me not to. She doesn't want me to see her as she is now but wants me to remember how she used to be, how we used to be - which was wild and crazy. We are those friends who constantly laugh and sing and whisper our secrets together. Every day was a new adventure for us. As badly as I want to see her again, to give her a hug, to watch her laugh again I honor her wishes. One time I was already in her town when she called crying, saying please don't come.
It is heart-breaking to be so close yet needing to respect her needs and desires. So I allow myself to become lost in those memories I so cherish of Carol and I through the years, remembering her vitality, courage, humor, intelligence, and determination. And through the tears, I always find reason to smile.
I am so sorry for the loss of your childhood friend and for the manner in which you learned of her passing.
Hugs,
Leslie
Hi Patti,
I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. I know that hurts and just finding out now, makes it very raw. Take some time to remember the good times. Maybe put together, a memory book if you have photos and memorabilia from your times together. I have always found the best way to honor someones life is to remember who they were and who you were together. Best buds.
The situation with Delora is awful. I cannot imagine how scared and confused she must be and to not have the basic support of her family must have been worse, however, having said that, and I know it took a lot of your energy but she did have you. What could be done to help her, was done. You talked to her and helped her, fed her and took care of her as best you could and that says an awful lot about you as a person. You have done what you can and now it is in the hands of her son. He may not want or like the responsibility but it is his. If you have his number, a call to ask him what he wants done with the house and the cat at this point might help. I wouldn't put it past him to dump her back off there as soon as he thinks he reasonably can do so and get away with it. At least you'd know if that is his intention or not.
Wow, snow again. It'll be wonderful when real spring and summer finally arrive and you can get outside with the animals and enjoy the days again. I am sure that they will love that too.
Hang in there. This too shall pass. Remember, we all just do the best we can, whatever the situation may be.
hugs
Sharlene and molly muffin
i am very tired so a short reply. i hope you can have at least one walk today and a good night sleep.