That's not true. A social worker can get involved and should get involved. You would be amazed at what they can do or the contacts that they have.
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That's not true. A social worker can get involved and should get involved. You would be amazed at what they can do or the contacts that they have.
He probably has a power of attorney and can make informed decisions about her care. I would still alert social services anyway and have them look into it. I would do it right away. I would have to do it because I'm a mandatory reporter for any kind of suspected abuse. They could at least investigate and find out if her sons decisions are in her best interest. You can't do this Patti. You need to get the system involved. That is what they are there for.
My brother had POA over my mom and he put her in assisted living against her wishes, against the wishes of the rest of the family and against her doctor's advise. He had full power over every facet of her life. Unless we could prove he did not have her best interest at heart, there was nothing we could do.
I believe that unless a person has been declared legally incompetent or physically/mentally unable to communicate their wishes, they have the right to revoke a POA at any time (both financial and medical POA). At the least, the incapacity typically requires a physician's documentation to that effect. I don't know how this plays out in Delora's case, but I didn't want people to think that just because they execute a POA, they've automatically turned their life over to somebody else forever. They have to be declared incapacitated before the POA kicks in. Before that, they remain in charge of their lives, can change their minds at any time, and can"fire" the POA.
Hi Everyone:
Well I can tell you that Delora knows how her son is, but everything I say to her like make your own decisions she sticks up for him. It is a hopeless battle. She is not very educated, a little country woman whose husband did everything. Delora did very little and now that her husband passed she is at the mercy of her son who she dearly loves and thinks he would do nothing to harm her. If I get social works involved I will probably not be allowed to see her anymore as he will know it is me as I am the only one helping her. I would not want that as I have looked after her for 6 years now. I need to think this over tonite while I am sure I will be wide awake.
I am wanting some opinions on this subject in the event I decide to have Tipper's teeth cleaned. She has two larger fatty cysts. One on her back, the other on her knee on the good back leg. Is it wise to have them removed or do you think I am setting myself up for possible CC issues if they do not heal well?? I have always had them removed before she got Cushings when she has her yearly cleanings, but this is different now. Has anyone else done this and had any problems with healing?? Tipper teeth were cleaned every year in February. I never cleaned them when she got Cushings as so many things were going on and I was scared because of the heart murmur etc. to put her under. her mouth smells and I know it is from no cleaning. What do you think of this?? I do brush her teeth every day with CET and it is not helping. It is not coming from inside her according to the IMS. So what are the opinions on what to do here? I don't want my dog not waking up just to get her teeth cleaned but understand the importance of it. Poor Grace is purring away at my feet , she is like a dog. She is the sweetest cat ever, I hate doing this to her, but at least she will have her teeth clean and be up to date on vet care etc. I just hate having her go somewhere else. Lots of dilemmas! Blessings
Patti
i am sorry to hear that you have to look for an other home for grace, but it sounds as an uncomplicated cat with a good nature.
must not be to difficult to rehome a cat like her with e.g. an elderly person where she will receive lots of attention. . she sounds like a quiet cat.
i have no experience with teeth cleaning for my dogs or cats [barf] , so i can not give you advice on this matter.
when it is not really necessary, i won't sedate my 12 year old cushing dog. if you brush them everyday, the teeth can not be too dirty can they?
no experience with fatty cysts either.....can't they stay put if they do not bother her? how large are they?
good to hear that tippers new meds do their work and the both of you are sleeping better.
i can imagine that the both of you do need some time-out from the vet for a while to relax and heal from all the physical exams.
be careful outside, so you don't break a leg or worse......your animals can not miss you.......
Patti, I think that the general rule with the cysts is to leave them alone unless they bother Tipper like hampering movement or get sore etc.
Maybe they can do a very light sedative to clean her teeth? I would ask.
The fact that Delora's son told her that she is not to bother with chemo is not in her best interests and any social worker should know this. They absolutely can get involved regardless of who is POA.
Hi Everyone:
Well it seems that Tipper did not have any episodes before I fell asleep so I am hoping she stayed that way after I went to sleep. I am so wanting these meds to stop this for her and me as it is so hard to watch. Tipper insists she wants to jump up on the bed again and we are having a real time of fighting about it. I don't mean to yell at her but she scares me so. I am still limiting her mobility and she is becoming angry with me because of it. I just thank God every day that she is as good as she is after all she has been thru. She will have to have her ACTH, Thyroid panel, Blood work, Urine etc done at the end of the month. I am giving her a break in between what all went on in the hospital before she has a nervous breakdown. I think her dose may have to go back to 30 mg Vetoryl even though that made her low on her top number. She is starting to get hungry 2 hours before her nitely meal and that is not a good sign. You can pretty much read her by her clinical signs as they come on stronger than other dogs may. I am still very sick over Grace. Tomorrow she goes to get her teeth done. Someone will be very fortunate to get such a loving and wonderful cat. She will makes someone very happy. She is tired of staying in my office though so this must end after she is cultured etc. and she has to move on unfortunately. I have been crying when thinking about it. She has had a hard life so far, and is still loving and sweet after all she has been thru. She loves being able to see out the window. Hope everyone stays safe and warm with this new clipper coming along. Blessings
Patti
Hi Everyone:
Well Tipper started getting hungry again for her 6 o'clock at 4:30, so I think the cortisol is rising again and I may have to revert back to the 30mg Vetoryl as we are at 20 Vetoryl and 8 trilostane now. I hate to do it as it makes her top number go low. I had to leave her as she is getting really pushy wanting to eat so I know the signs to well. I am going to try to stick it out until the end of the month ACTH. I do not want her uncontrolled though so I will see what happens in the next few days. I so not want her to have to have 2 ACTH's if I can get it to one, as she has had enough already.
Well my neighbor Delora called me with some more concerning news. She told me that her son got her Leaves for Lives and that she should take that instead of Chemo. I read up on this stuff and read a lot of bad things. I knew he was going to talk her out of it. The bad part is she is trying to please him so he loves her by doing what he says. I told her how I felt about all of it and she said I have my mind made up and I am doing it. There is no need to call a social worker as she is going to listen to him until her death. His word is good and when someone else tells her it isn't she chooses to believe him. There is nothing else anyone can do if she believes him. I am not going to make myself a nervous wreck if she does everything he tells her. It is out of my hands now, and God will have to intervene. He is the most evil of people I have known. This will come back to him as it always does Karma will get him in the end. I just feel so badly that she is so naïve to his crap. Grace is on her back purring again as I type. She is the most pleasant, sweet natured girl, why did this have to happen to her??? I really wish with all my heart she could stay and have a good life. I guess it was not meant to be. I am all ready to take her in the morning. I will have someone watch Tipper when I drop Grace off. I will get her around 3pm to come home. I put an ad out for her to find her a new home- I just want to cry she is so nice. God Help her. Blessings
Patti
hi patti, i have to fight with ian too about jumping into the car. they don't understand why they can't do this anymore by themselves.
since he is on 30 mg vetoryl, he does not beg for food anymore.
hope you can find a good home for grace soon with nice people. maybe the vet will allow you to put an ad on their website and/or in the waiting room. my vet has a message board for that.
it is good that you are both sleeping well, so you can recover from everything.
hope the weather is not too bad in your area. [it is +5c. overhere]
there were 2 bills from the vet in the mail. 1 reminder and one new one. i have to find the currage to open them..................