Confused and Overwhelmed-Diagnosed Anal Sac Carcinoma (Woody has passed)

Hope all is ok with Mum xx

Progressing on to dinner. Tatties are potatoes for our non Scottish readers :D. Nice that you could do it together. Just like home economics class. I loved them :D

Is good to have a plan and yours sounds very sensible. You have had a crappy year so it can only get better babe.

Yeah Mum will be fine, we just need to keep a close eye on her, she is having problems seeing out the eye she had the operation on and its causing her to stumble and fall, she isn,t good on her legs at best of times due to arthritis. My sister is going to speak with her doctor see if they can do anything about her eye, shes not due back at the hospital for a while. But Mum doesn,t want a fuss know what there like.;)

Stubborn as a mule probably and determined to do it all herself! Hopefully they will be able to give her something to help her sight. Must be frustrating for her, there is nothing worse than not being able to do things.

I broke my wrist nearly 6 years ago and I had to move home for a few months as I couldn't walk the dogs on my own then I couldn't move the bloody thing when it come out of the cast, had to have 6 months of physio which was brutal. I was so pissed off in the end, my mum even had to cut up my food was tough going!

Hopefully when it gets a bit warmer and nicer your mum will start to progress, I do think this cold makes things worse as my wrist is painful now and it's not even that bad out!

I think winter is tougher on her and her joints, and yes she is very independent wonder where I get it from lol.

Broken wrists sucks I broke mine years ago, falling over the dog of all things, but I was fine didn,t need physio. You don,t realise how much you need both arms to do simple things, I wore skirts for 6 weeks whilst in cast as I could pull up trousers or do up the zips lol.

Is work getting you down, it sounds as if your run off your feet there

Work is a juggling act as I have more than one client and if they all need something it becomes a bit nuts. I used to love the diversity of it but IT has changed so much mainly due to the rubbish economy so outsourcing is harder. Everybody wants everything as quick as possible and for nothing. Wasn't like that when I started!

I like to be busy but since they made some changes it's got a bit much. I do however always remind myself of how lucky I am and I know it could be worse. I would like to peruse something else but done this for a long time so it's not that easy :)

Yeah the economy has a lot to answer for. Suppose I,m lucky in a way as I was in my last industry for 25 years and before being made reduntant was getting fed up with it and now I,m not working I can change industries. But right now I will have to just take whatever is going just to get pennies together, as my savings won,t last forever :rolleyes:

That's a good way to look at it. Don't want to burn through all your blinking savings as you never know when you may need something!

Can't believe it's nearly midnight already, I should really try for some sleep. Nice to catch up with you and I will be back tomorrow to see how your mince and tatties turned out.

Hope you get some sleep babe

Night
Mel
Xxxxxxx

Hope you get some sleep too

Night night x

A good plan from the sounds of it and I'm sure that it will happen and all come together for you.
Hope your mom's eye can be sorted out so as to make it easier for her to see and get around. I'm sure it's a balance issue with the sight involved.

Well molly manages to get her sleep, she just complains till the rest of us shut up and give her peace and quiet. That is a dog that knows what she wants. Right now she wants my michael kors slippers in the worst way possible. she can't have them!!

hugs,
Sharlene and Molly muffin

Hey you

How did your mince and tatties turn out? Hoping you had a good hot meal. Was roast chicken tonight here! Did you sister manage to speak to the doctor for your mum?

We had a rain free walk tonight which was nice am sick of getting blinking soaked as soon as I step out of the door.

Had more issues today but resolved most so wasn't as bad as some days.

Hope your ok today and that I catch you in a bit

Big hug

Mel
Xxxxxxx

Hey Mel

Well what can I say about the mince and tatties, the mince was a bit dry but was ok, according to my sister I cooked it too long oops, but I did eat it.

Took mum to the doctors today and went in with her, the GP said that her eye is really red and sore looking, but didn,t want to do anything about it, I asked her to contact Mums surgeon for an urgent appointment so will wait and see, hopefully she can get into see him soon. I think its getting her down a bit.:(

Rain free walk here this morning but it has been non stop rain since about 3 pm and its bitterly cold. Glad you didn,t get another soaking when out with Boyce, I don,t miss walking the dog in this weather although Woody hated getting wet and would pull to get home after 5 mins ;)

Good to hear that you managed to get the issues at work sorted out, I,ve still not heard anything back from any I,ve applied for so still a waiting game here.

Hopefully catch up later

xx

Hey you

Nutty yesterday and day before that spilled over a bit into the evening's not good!

How you doing?

Mel
Xx

Hey Mel

Blarrgh to work spilling over, that's not so good.

I,m hanging in there bad day yesterday but I got through it. Going to hospital with Mum today so hopefully they can fix this eye problem out.

Hope to catch you over the weekend

xx

Sorry you had a rubbish day and I wasn't around! I am having a few myself too if I am honest. I think cause it's nearly the 1 year date I had to say bye to T.

Good luck with your mums appointment. Hopefully you will be able to work something out with the doctors.

Did you make anything adventurous for last nights tea or was it back to coco pops? Rain is back here again, been pouring all day, it's the lack of sunlight that gets me, is dark when we wake up and all day. Wishes spring would hurry up! Bet we get a bunch of snow before that happens.

Hopefully speak to you later work permitting.

Mel
Xxxxx

Tracy:
Ok what is mince and tatties? Never heard that before. Hope you have some job prospects coming on the horizon. Also hope you are doing well. How is the weather over there. We got snow this morning. Blessings
Patti

Blooming heck, sorry I have not been here too and you have had a couple of sucky days.. damn life getting in the way of my dog group because you all mean so much to me and help carry me through the bad days. Mmmm coco pops, wish I had some right now.. but alas the cupboards are bare even the cheese is mouldy :eek::eek: Might be time to get the groceries done today and clean up a bit so I should be around if you pop in later!! Hope your having some fun tonight (and a decent dinner :D:D) xxxxx

Hey you guys, Mel sorry you are having bad days too, it just sucks doesn,t it, we will just need to cheer each other up or cry on each others shoulders whatever I don,t mind. One year nearly already Mel, Tia anniversary is the day before my birthday, I don,t know what to tell you other than they are both running around having fun at the bridge, Woody like a little kid going come play Tia, pleeeeeeease, c,mon lets have some mischief and Tia going yeah Woody in a minute in her laidback way. :) It is hard but we,ll get through this, and Trish will keep us amused with tales of Flynn and the creek, I struggle everyday without Woody but I try and stay strong as he was a little fighter and I don,t want to let him down by falling to pieces although I want to :(

Trish - you must go grocery shopping even I have more in my cupboards than you do:p I had a lovely meal tonight of fillet steak and chips and onion rings it is my favourite dinner, and off course a bellini to wash it down with. :)

Hopefully catch up with you both over the weekend. Big hugs being sent to you Mel whether you want them or not !!!!

Oh crud, Tracy, sorry to hear that you and Mel are having bad days. They really can catch you unaware sometimes. Then Bham there you are.
It doesn't seem like a year that Tia has been gone. :( It seems like just yesterday she was having her walks with you and Boyce.
hmm, steak and chips and onion rings. We had pizza. Hubs was in the mood for pizza and chicken wings tonight, so that was what we had.
jeebees you guys are having more bellini's now than I am!! ROFL!
Now are we doing the frozen kind? because I went to a restaurant the other day and ordered one and they came back with this mixed drink thing in a champagne glass and it was not what I was expecting at all. So, just to be clear...
http://royalcitymel.blogspot.ca/2012...ilestones.html

That is just for the picture, not the recipe, which doesn't seem right to me...rum? hmm..

LOL
hugs
Sharlene and molly muffin

Crikey, my bellinis looked NOTHING like that one Sharlene... mine just had a lot of the frozen peach in it... but it was not all icy :)

I also cannot believe it is nearly a year since we lost Tia, unbelievable where is the time going. She was such a sweetheart so we will have to have a big celebration of her life next month Mel! Sorry your days have been so sucky lately too... Big Hugs for you xxxx

I went and did the groceries Tracy, bought a nice juicy steak for dinner which I am cooking soon with a baked potato and salad. I was just flicking through the channels and stopped in on the tennis.. Australian Open just in time to see Andy Murray win his match. Lots of Scottish flags flying there :D

Hello. My goodness never saw Bellini,s like that before and I,ve tried a few over the years lol.

Had a good day today took the gruesome twosome (mum and nana) out shopping then lunch, my nana cracks me up she was lecturing mum on looking after her eye, she kept saying well I,m your mother so do as you are told, my mum will be 70 in Feb ;) I then came home and cleaned the house top to bottom including the spare room which has became a bit of a junk room so it now looks like a proper bedroom, and I even cooked dinner tonight then a long soak in the bath.

Its a month tomorrow since Woody has been gone, some days it feels like yesterday and others it feels like forever :mad:

Moms will always be moms. It doesn't matter how old you are.
I miss mine terribly. Your post made me smile.

OK you get your butt right over here, I need your energy in the house cleaning department :D:D:D although not doing too badly myself so far today!! But what a productive day you have had!! Green bin has to go out tonight so once it cools down outside the garden shall be my project this evening :) Mind you if I go to a winery for lunch, probably not much be happening this arvo :D

Your Nana cracks me up telling your Mum what to do.... never too old to give your babies a piece of advice, love it!

hmmm, what do your bellini's look like? Maybe because this is the frozen style? It's what most of them here look like. (trendy I guess it is) LOL

oh nice! I need to get my house cleaned top to bottom. :( With this sick thing going on and hubby home, I'm running the dishwasher ever day and constantly picking up, cooking or something it seems like and still the place is a mess! :( I use my spare bedroom as a storage too, then run around like crazy getting it looking like a bedroom again when company shows up. LOL

I know, sometimes it's like I don't even believe Woody is gone and yet, already a month :(

I think a nice long soak in the tub sounds like Just the thing. Maybe I'll do that later after dinner. I have a chicken roasting in the crock pot. Might be easiest meal ever, these crockpot things. :) Smells good anyhow :)

hugs
Sharlene and Molly muffin

Sharlene our bellinis are less icy peach and more presecco/champers so therefore more alcoholic :D

Maybe the cleaning was a bad idea, I,m feeling a bit stiff now lol. Cleaning actually relaxes me. I,ll book the flight right now Trish if you have good weather I,ll do your cleaning its freezing here.:)

Hope you enjoy the winery and don,t have too much lol x

Trish must have enjoyed herself at the winery as she hasn't been back today :eek: jealous of their nice weather that's for sure.

How you doing today?

Am off in a bit to see the kids, not really in the mood but promised so I don't like to break it!

So sad about little mikaeel, I so hoped he would be found

Hi Mel

Yeah I think Trish must have enjoyed the winery :D It is a tragic shame about Mikaeel the news is saying his mother has been arrested what is the world coming too :eek:

I,m doing ok today, the weather has been dry so managed a walk, although after all the cleaning and moving furniture my back and legs are a bit sore, just a reminder I,m not getting any younger :rolleyes:

How are you doing, I hope your feeling better, yeah sometimes you just have to force yourself to do things, life goes on, not the life you want but off a fashion. I hope work isn,t too manic for you this week you could be doing with a break :)

I saw that the mother had been arrested in the Daily Mail. :( I usually try to keep up with the daily mail or the guardian as to whats going on over there. :)

It's not easy when you start to feel the aches and pains and the cold in the joints. :( A walk, though might loosen things up.

I hope you both have a good week. :)

I'm going to assume that Trish had a lovely time at the winery and now is back into the work week. Full steam ahead! :)

hugs,
sharlene and molly muffin

Hi girls - blech Monday is here already :rolleyes:

I heard about that little boy on our news too, very sad.

The winery was fabulous, lovely lazy afternoon :D we went to visit our friend and her little dog Cooper afterwards, I took Flynny and they had a great time playing until my friend turned the sprinkler on the lawn. Cooper loves it but Flynn was like.... heeeeeeeeeeeeeeey that's wet, what you doing fool and hightailed it inside :D:D! My friend could not get over how much energy he had. But boy was he knackered afterwards and slept for ages! But he is good this morning.

Glad you had some doggy time with Murphy Tracy, and kid time for you Mel, fun fun fun :D:D:eek::D:D xxxxxx

Ha ha I love the story of Flynn high tailing inside, don,t you know water makes him shrink :D Really pleased to see that he is enjoying life to the max that a boy :cool

I,m jealous of your sunshine although its been dry here, its bitterly cold and I,ve had to put the electric blanket on the past couple of nights I always feel the cold, my poor old bones need some warmth :rolleyes:

Have a good week at work

Hey you

Hope you have been ok today? 1 month doesn't feel that long but feels like a lifetime too, that feeling hasnt changed for me.

How your bones doing tonight after all that work yesterday? Kids were good but it was manic!

Have you continued to cook dinner? What was on the menu tonight? I had a sandwich for dinner couldn't be bothered :eek:

Xx

Your up late Mel. I,ve done pretty well today had a good walk, that helped loosen up my legs and back. I,ve cooked the last two nights, I had homemade chips, chicken, peas and carrots tonight followed by a cheesecake (sister made the cheesecake). I know its basic simple cooking to most people, but I usually just have a sandwich or put something in the microwave, or hope my sister has cooked for me :D
I think that is my problem is most of the time I can,t be bothered cooking, so I just grab a sandwich, but I,m making a conscious effort to cook. :D

How are you doing today Mel, Yeah a month already, feels like a lifetime some days other days it feels like yesterday. I had toast at mums this morning when I was over and left the crusts, mum was like Woody,s not here anymore, he always got the crusts of the toast and I can,t get out the habit of it.:confused:

Trying to unwind before sleep, know if I go now mind will be whirring. Washing machine has decided to play up too so I am fighting it to give me all the socks back!!

I think it is harder to bother cooking for one but I do believe that nutrition does play a part in feeling well. Google is great for inspiration and everything can be scaled down. I love to cook and bake and really don't even mind if it's rubbish cause I tried :D

I am ok, having my moments. Tia started to get poorlier over these weeks last year so I can't help but think back to it all. Still feels like yesterday to me too sometimes. I try not to think about it as she slowly slipped away in front of my eyes and there was nothing I could do.

I know all about saving crusts. It's the little things that can really get you sometimes. He was such a presence in your life, it's makes it so so hard

I think in that respect I was lucky if you can call it that, in that I didn,t need to watch Woody get sick over a period of time as it happened so quick with him as he was what I thought quite well right up to his second collapse, and was playing in the morning, but the flip side to that is the shock of the speed of it all. I am still haunted by the look in his eyes on his collapse, something inside me just knew he wouldn,t be with me much longer, I see it every time I close my eyes :mad:

I,m sorry I wasn,t around when Tia got sick, and I can understand that you will be thinking of her at this time, it is sometimes harder to think about them in happier times when they were well, I try and focus on that when I think of Woody, doesn,t always work though. So you need to be kind to yourself, and if you need to cry, scream, rant, reminisce then I will be here with you ;)

Just bloody sucks they are only with us for a short time. I was so lucky in many ways, I had her from 8 weeks to 12 years 3 months and got to spend the last 6 or so years working from home with her every day. She was such a character a right little miss, who liked her own way, hated the floor, loved her snuggles, she was a very loving little girl, a mummy's girl for sure, although she would never talk to me after the vets visits, would go straight to bed and sleep till dinner then she would be ok with me!

Thank you for saying that. I didn't post much when she was poorly, I think for a while I was in denial but I came back a little while before I let her go and everyone was kind to me in the months that followed.

I am sorry that you had to go through what you both went though, it's must be very hard to have that image in your mind, when I think sad thoughts of Tia I always try and remind myself of her happy memories and naughty ones. I bet your wee man has a few of those xx

She was defo was a mummy,s girl and why wouldn,t she be :D I love staffies, they always seem to be smiling and always have there tail wagging.

Denial I think we all know how that goes, we,ve all been in denial I know I was. It is great that you had so long with her at home with you, and yea it Sucks big time that there only with us for a short time. I only had Woody for 3 and half years no time at all really, but we did pack in a lot in those years. We loved the Lake District and would go there 4 - 5 times a year for a week and he loved it, big open spaces, lots of new smells and plenty of pub fires to lie in front off. :D

Trying to focus on the good, naughty times is good for us both as by the sounds of it they both had a lot of them, I have never met such a naughty little feisty terrier as Woody, nothing like my last terrier who was very quiet, but it won,t stop us missing them like mad, sometimes I feel like I,ve lost a limb as it was me and him against the world and now its just me. :mad:

She had her grumpy moments. Boyce is the ever go lucky happy fella. She was more selective which staffies typically aren't!

The Lake District was one of the only places I didn't take them! So great you both got to do that. We also used to have about 4-5 breaks a year. We have such great beaches and walks and it's so great to see them scamping around checking it all out.

Woody was a character that's for sure and that's what makes it harder as he kept you on your toes! Not just you, all of us are with you. Never alone ever, may only be via the internet but I am very real sitting here in my pj's talking to you xxx

Right back at you Mel, I,m in my PJ,s too. That,s the thing our lives revolved around our dogs, I would never go on holiday unless Woody went too, if I was out for the night I went home early so he wasn,t left too long, came home from work at lunchtime to walk him, it was all about Woody, but I would never have had it any other way :D

I sadly sat in my bedroom this morning and had a good cry while I was holding his bed, as I can still smell him on it sad I know but I would give anything for just some more time with him, but alas it wasn,t to be and it sucks. I,m sure you feel the same way about Tia
xx

Sounds like he had a great life in the time you did get to spend with him, you made it count for both of you. Did he used to get excited when he knew you were going away? Mine know the word holiday!

I can imagine him exploring all the places, sniffing around.

A good cry is what's needed sometimes, have to let it out as it's hard to have a brave face always. Good it smells of him still, some small comfort however hard.

I do wish we had longer.

Yip he knew as soon as I brought the suitcase out, I would open his holdall that I put all his stuff in and he would sniff it and start jumping around, it was funny to watch him. I would put toys in it and he would take them out and look at me, as if to say there not going, so I had to make that the last thing I did before zipping it up. He loved the car and would sit in his bed in the back and look out the window all the way there as soon as you said "we,re here" his wee tail would go that fast it was like a helicopter lol :D

Did you win the fight between the washing machine and the socks yet :)

Bless him! He made a game out of the toys being packed. I tend to start packing a few days before so she would always twig and start following me, she would sleep most of the way but then usually wake up and sit in the gap so she could see when we arrived!

Nope all the bloody lights are flashing now so I think it might be broken. They are new socks and lots of them so will have to figure out a way to get them tomorrow, given up in disgust right now!!

I better try and attempt some sleep as it's getting later. Catch you soon, thanks for the chat tonight xxx