Confused and Overwhelmed-Diagnosed Anal Sac Carcinoma (Woody has passed)

Wonder if you could advertise in your local paper or online via gumtree or something.

I get going to get him from where you dropped him off makes perfect sense to me x

Nice of him to call and talk to you and go through what they eventually found out as it resolves some questions I am sure you had. Must have been hard to read it in black and white. Trust your Woody to get something rare!

Have you been eating ok and Sleeping ok, it's such a daze most days I know I didn't properly for months so just checking up on you xxxx

Yeah Mel trust Woody. I'm eating a bit but mostly chocolate oops sleep well not had a full nights sleep since April with having to get up with Woody but I don't sleep much now mind is to active plus there usually a good film on during the night lol. I really do need to sort out the sleep thing as it's not good and I'm always exhausted ive tried all sorts milky drinks, hot baths, listening to relax tapes nothing seems to work maybe my body is used to little sleep now :rolleyes:

It was hard to see everything in black and white but it helps me finally knowing what was wrong with him. People still can't believe it when I tell them as he looked and acted so well until his second collapse

At least your eating something, may need to get your sister round soon mind!

I think it takes time with the sleep, I never thought I would get back to normal as I also used to get up numerous times. I do think the more you think it's an issue the more it becomes one. If you can't sleep forcing it makes it worse!!

I think we are all still in shock with you and for it to be such a rare issue. You did your very best to help him and that's all any of us can do. I am sure he is causing some havoc! I talked to Tia's picture too and I asked her if they were getting into trouble!

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I have this picture in my head that when he arrived Tia, buddy and all the others gathered round while they discussed what brought him there I can see them all in a circle with Woody in the middle telling his story, I can then see them running over the fields, stopping to eat some grass and chill out :D I know he will be having a ball cause he won't be sick anymore and I can live with :)

I had got my head round him living on borrowed time of maybe 6 months but 6 wks that was hard to take but I look back and he had a ball in that 6 wks and that's all I wanted for him. Time won't heal what I feel but I will be able to live with it in time .

That's a nice image, the others showing him the ropes and looking after each other through our bond :D

I am sure he loved all his life with you, I loved all his videos which showed his personality so much you were lucky to find each other xxxx

Yes, Woody is in the middle of all our Cush Angels acting silly and cracking them all up.That is the picture in my mind of sweet Woody. :) you are doing great Tracy. :p xxxxx

Hi Tracy

I really like your Ian, he is such a kind guy to call and speak to you personally and not just send a report in the post. So I guess that does explain all the straining Woody had that you were so worried about. It does all fit in now you have the official diagnosis and some closure. You certainly did do the right thing by your boy. With that diagnosis he was up against it from the get go, but Woody lived his life to the fullest right to the end. I can also imagine him up there telling his story to the others... like oh yeah I had an evil cancer but that didn't stop me opening the fridge, drinking milk out her glass, mangling toys, walking the woods and being a video star around the world... yeah dawgs, I am the man :D I hope he does not lead Miss Tia astray :D xxxx

Tracy:
What a kind fellow your Ian is. He is looking out for Woody's mom. He must be very special, and you are so lucky to have him. I know what you mean about the finality of picking up the ashes and that you must do it yourself. Blessings
Patti

I have picked up Woodys ashes today and he is finally home :D My mum came with me for company and on the way home she asked if I could drop her at the hairdressers, so I pull up and she hands me an envelope and inside is a voucher for a mini pamper day she said she knew I was having a hard time and just wanted to cheer me up today. :o So I have had my hair done, my nails done and a facial and actual feel as if I,m in the land of the living once again.

I miss Woody so very much, but today I feel like I can actually start grieving and come to terms with things better as I felt in limbo without his ashes here as he was so far away and on his own, but he,s home now (in a sense) and he is at peace

What a sweet mom Tracy.:) I am glad Woody is home where he belongs. Xxxxx

Yay Welcome Home Woody!! I am pleased he is back with you Tracy, but I kind of think he has never left your airspace anyway :D You have the perfect place for him to watch over proceedings.

Wow your Mum is awesome, what a day to be having a treat like that, so thoughtful of her just when you needed it. I like her!! xx

Your mom and Trish's mom, love them both. What darlings! Mum's just know don't they. :)

Woody is home, but I agree, I don't think he ever left or that he ever will leave. He'll be there always just to make sure things are going okay in His home. :)

I don't know sometimes where grieving begins and ends, it just sort of is.
Well, how as that for profound nonwisdom!! LOL

hugs,
Sharlene and Molly Muffin

I don't know Sharlene, that sounds pretty profound to me. Your point being that it is what it is. That we ride the waves as they wash ashore. Now that's PROFOUND! ;) LOL Then again, what do I know. I am still riding those damn waves!

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I don't know sometimes where grieving begins and ends, it just sort of is.

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Tracy, you are doing great! Sharlene is a shining star. We are blessed to have her watching out for us. Xxxx

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That we ride the waves as they wash ashore.

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ohhh, that IS profound Kathy!! LOL

See you are graced with all our abundant wisdom Tracy. hehehehehe Cause we luvs ya

Hugs,
Sharlene and Molly Muffin

Tracy,

mom's know just what to do :)

You knew Woody well enough to make the decision that was best and now that's been confirmed. Getting past blaming yourself is a major roadblock that you no longer have to contend with.

Pampering sounds great!

Welcome home Woody Boy, where you belong wee man

That was nice of your mum to do that to try and make you feel a bit better on the outside, I know the inside will take some work yet. I felt a bit better when Tia came home so I get what you mean

Did you get any snow? We finally have had a break from the rain and now we just have freezing temps but the sun has been out.

Work has been really sucky which is why I haven't been around one of my clients has had issues on and off all week, no fun especially when people make mistakes fixing it!

Hoping you hear something back from all the bits you went for next week

Big hug

Mel
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Thanks everyone for the profund words, yeah I do think you have to ride the waves of emotion, and one day I will hopefully come of the rollercoaster and back to my new normal.:)

Good to see you Mel - We got snow, ice, freezing wind and sunshine all in the same day yesterday, he was really weird, today is dry but cold. I had a really weird drive up to the hospital left the village with -2 and snow and ice, got to mums it was 1 with ice then when I got to the hospital it was 6 degress and sunshine. Can,t figure the weather out these days. Sorry to hear work has been sucky, I hope to hear something this week from the job front as my savings are running a bit low lol

Tracy:
What a wonderful mom you have. So caring and in tune with her daughter's emotions. I bet you had a lovely day all because of your caring mom. I am glad it picked your spirits up. I am happy Woody is where her belongs and will always be with you now. Blessings
Patti

Hey you

Just checking in to see how you are doing?

Did you get any call backs today?

Eaten something other than coco pops?

Mel
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Hi Mel good to see you. No not heard anything yet its all a waiting game I think.

I,ve had some soup for lunch and Weetabix for dinner well its healthy lol:) How are you, is work still busy

Waiting is the worst. I often find myself waiting for updates on issues and I am rubbish at it, get so annoyed. You think I would be used to it by now!

Hopefully someone will come back with something soon. Is there any volunteering you could do around your way to fill some time?

Well at least you had something, I did fillet steak with potato rosti and coleslaw was pretty tasty. Another incident came in just as I was off to make it but I managed to get that on hold till tomorrow. This client has 24*7 support in January so it's like being on tenterhooks waiting for something. Have done this for over 8 years now but it gets no easier esp as people are leaving and systems change so it's makes it harder.

Did you get anymore snow? We had hail and rain again today but me and Boyce managed to miss it for once!

Mel
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That sounds really tasty I love steak. Bit of a pain in the butt giving 24/7 support means you can,t really plan anything. I used to do every 3rd wknd on call in my last job and I hated it.

Some of the positions I applied for the closing dates are until this Friday so I,m assuming I won,t hear till next week. There isn,t a lot of my type of work around this area, so I may need to move or travel a lot wait and see :confused:

We had beautiful weather this morning clear skies so I managed a good walk, but rained all afternoon, the temp has risen and that normally means snow is on its way :cool:

Wishes you were closer as I would come and cook you a good meal, can't even fedex it to you as Scotland is a mission from here!

I have done it forever but then I had a break from it and now I have a client who needs it again. Sucks as like you say daren't plan anything as it's like the universe knows :D

Hoping that something crops up to suit you, as I am sure you could do with the distraction of work.

At least you managed to get a walk in with some sunshine, I always think that's good for you especially as we get so little in winter.

How is your sleeping? Getting a few more hours?

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Sleeping is not much better I can,t seem to fall asleep before 3 am most days no matter how tired I am. I,ve given up trying as the more you try the less sleep you get. I,ve never been a great sleeper, but obviously it got worse when woody needed out during the night and now I think its all just with everything running through my head, I guess in time that will go. Getting a job would be a distraction for my brain and it would give me back some structure in my life, as I,ve always worked so not used to having so much free time, I try and go a walk everyday so that the walls don,t start closing in on me :)

I can relate. I find it difficult to switch off and Tia was exactly the same could be up 3/4 times

I still have nights where I wake up that many times, I always seem to wake up like an hour after I have fallen asleep then takes me another hour to get back to sleep! Wishes we didnt have active brains sometimes!!

It's good to force yourself out even if you don't feel like it. Did you find out any info on the dog walking or is it a bit soon?

I,ve been looking into it, and all the paperwork I would need like insurance etc so hopefully can do it later on when I get some money together.

My friend asked me today to look after Mac her westie for a few days at the end of the month, he usually goes to a petsitter,s house so I agreed to take him for 3 days, he is a lovely wee dog and I,ve been around him since he was 8 wks and he,s 5 now, she says she will pay me the going rate I said no way I,d do it for free but she insists on paying me so this could be the tester for me and if it works then I could look into doing it more often at least its extra money and I get my doggy fix, without the heartbreak. My brother has also asked if I could look after Murphy for a week in Feb if I,m not working, so they can go on holiday abroad, as they,ve not been since getting murphy 6 yrs ago again I,ve known his since he was 8 weeks so this could become my hobby for the moment :)

It sucks when you can,t switch your mind off, I,ve always been the same but at least I had Woody to keep my mind of things.

I didn't even think about insurance would make sense, nothing is simple!

I think it will be great for mac to go to someone he knows, I know you probably don't like the idea of taking the money but she would have paid the pet sitter and it will help keep some of your savings babe, that's what friends are for. Will be nice to have him around for some cuddles too.

Boyce has gone to bed, he doesn't sit up with me, I take him out he gets his biscuit then buggers off to bed! No loyalty at all :D

Ha ha Boyce is probably thinking yeah right I,m not sitting up its bedtime and I,ve lots of snores to be doing. I didn,t realise he was a staffie till I looked at his picture, I love them they are so loyal (well except at bedtime) I have one in the village and he is cute as a button and nearly knocks me over with his tail he is a rescue and is covered in scars poor soul but he is a great wee dog. Its just a shame they get such bad press up here, not sure if its the same where you are.

Tia didn't look so staffie like but she was pedigree and his sister so all stafford. She was more slight and not so much of a bruiser as him

Boyce has never grown up, he is 13 going on 8 weeks for all his life, he is such a happy guy, you just have to look at him and he wags his tail, he sometimes seems like he will take off! The amount of things he knocks over with it is ridiculous :D

Yes unfortunately they do get very bad press, he would never go for a person he just wants a cuddle. All dogs can be dangerous it's how they are brought up same as humans!

It is exactly how they are brought up, never a bad dog only a bad owner is what I say.

You better get yourself to bed its gone 11.30 you,ll never get up for work in the morning.

Good to catch up with you Mel and I hope work gets better :)

Indeed, and I think you just have to be sensible. I never left the kids alone with the dogs ever and never would no matter how much I trusted the dogs.

I always get up whether I am any use once I am awake is another matter :D

I should sign off though and try for some sleep, hope you get sleepier early tonight ;)

Big hug
Mel
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I,m sure you do great when you are up, I,m a terrible morning person and didn,t usually wake up till I was in work and on my second coffee ;)

Goodnight and take care

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Night, you take care as well.

It's evening in the states now so company will be arriving soon xx

Hey Tracy

Just popping into see how you are doing? Did you get out for your wander today? We were free of rain until about 9 and it's come back with a vengeance!

Work was ok but more issues cropped up, my brain aches from it all!

Did you see anything else that could be a possible for you?

Mel
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Hi Tracy and Mel! Waving from across the pond! :)

We're due for more snow here tonight, after several days of above freezing temps and ice/snow melt, now we are heading to below freezing and more slow. *sigh*

hugs!
Sharlene and Molly Muffin

Hey you I had a lovely wander round the outskirts of the village today, it was dry up until about an hour ago, but its really cold tonight. I,ve made scones today and they actually turned out all right and even better they are edible :D

Applied for an Office Managers job today with a company not too far from me, so fingers crossed as that would be less travelling.

There is nothing worse than brain ache especially from work related stuff that sucks

Hey Sharlene *waves* your weather sure does sound iky. More snow pftt. How are you and the hubs doing is Molly getting any sleep

Tracy:
Sending you good job vibes and hoping you are doing well. Blessings
Patti

Hey Sharlene - hope your all feeling better x

Am pleased you managed to get a change of scene

You baked :D that is great and you could eat them which is even better! So what are you going to try next?

Less travelling would be good, I just hope you hear something about one if them as I know it must be tough going for you.

I,m going to try mince and tatties, my big sis came up tonight we have some stuff going on with my mum we needed to discuss and she helped me bake, she made some and I made some and I just followed her and they turned out I,m amazed, she has shown me how to make the mince so will give it a try tomorrow :D I felt like I was in school again lol.

I,ve had a bit of a crappy year with Woody and mum being sick then losing my job, then the wee man and its been really tough but I,m still standing, just need to focus on sorting out the future. I already have a plan, get a job, renew my car as its old and falling to bits and then get a new furbaby, so as long as I stay focus on that I,ll do all right I think :D