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    I started a thread this same way last November. I hope it was a comfort last year, and that it will be a comfort once again. We are a family that spans the globe, bearing our sad losses together and holding one another up, all together. So once again, here is a thread that can be our "home" for the holidays. Here we go...

    These last few weeks have been so tough for our family here. And the holidays are especially hard, no matter whether the loss was yesterday or ten years ago. So I thought I'd start a thread where people can check in, if they want. It'll be here all through the holidays. And if anybody has a special memory to share, we will love to hear about it. And if anybody is having an especially hard day, we'll be here to listen and join in a group hug. Because that's what we do. We laugh and cry together. And that's the way we continue to honor our loved ones, all through the holidays.
    Marianne

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    And for those who may not already know about our special candle-lighting site, here is a link:

    http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...m?l=eng&gi=K9C

    All through the holidays, we can keep our candles burning bright. Shining with comfort and warmth. The candles will keep shining through our tears, and remind us that love never dies.

    Marianne

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    Thank you Marianne,

    Just taking a moment to remember my Roxee and Mickee. It will be difficult going through the holidays and missing all their little quirks. They would always get excited and knew that when the tree went up, it meant special treats and a load of toys. I can still see Roxee looking at the gifts under the tree..then looking at me and waiting until I said OK... She always knew exactly which package contained her favorite toy and loved ripping it apart. Mickee would always be close by reminding us not to forget his special treats.

    I have been taking every opportunity to enjoy as much time as I can with Rozee, (Roxee's littermate sister) and LittleBit. Rozee always waits for the big bag of toys to get dumped so she can jump into the middle of them she is getting older, 16 now, but still loves her stuffed toys. LittleBit is still learning that life in our home is about fun, playtime and cuddle time... it will be her 2nd Christmas with us. I think she likes it here

    Miss my Roxee girl and My Mickee boy........
    John (Roxee & Rozee's Dad)

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    It is Christmas morning, and the doggie girls and I are the first ones awake. It is still dark, and so the lights from the tree gleam so beautifully. In just a little while, coffee will be brewing and "Merry Christmas!" will ring throughout the house. But right in this moment, I stand by the tree and remember Christmases Past, and shed a little tear for the loved ones who are with us today in spirit alone. Oh, for just one more moment together, one more hug. Just one more Christmas...

    But the light from the tree shines so brightly. And so does our love. I will always remember. And I will always miss you all, until the day that we are reunited once again.

    Merry Christmas to all my beloved angels. Peace be with you, now and forever ~
    Marianne

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    I decided to "bump up" this thread once again, just in case anybody has a thought or memory that they'd like to share throughout this holiday season. For me, when I think of my angels, the holidays always bring both smiles and tears. And it feels good to know there is a place where I can come and talk, no matter which way I'm feeling.

    Don't worry, Spirit Barkis, I'll be saving a bite of turkey for you, just like I do every year! I miss you so much.

    Marianne

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    Thank you Marianne, what a kind, thoughtful thing to do.

    Last year my mother had fallen and broken her pevic in two places and we did not think she would recover. Most people her age do not. I was out looking for nursing homes. It was quite a feat to bring her home last year for Thanksgiving, she could not walk by herself or get in and out of a car.

    This year, she walks with a walker just fine and can walk in and out of my house without a ramp and get in and out of my car.

    We plan on having a joyous Thanksgiving with her and Zoe and Koko. The kids are stopping by for appetizers and their Papa's famous Bloody Marys sans liquor

    I am so thankful my mom and Zoe are still here. I feel truly blessed.

    I will say a shout out to my dad in heaven. I believe he does a great job watching over us and has some good pull with God I miss him very much even though he has been gone for 12 years. But his presence is always with me, steering me to the right path.

    Thank you Dad, for still being there for me.
    Last edited by addy; 11-20-2012 at 08:59 PM.
    love,
    addy, zoe and koko


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    Today is Koda's birthday..he would have been 7 Dec 19. Today.
    It has been a hard journey the past 5 months,but I got through it.I still shed a tear at the thought that he is gone, but I can say that I KNOW his little soul is up there watching ,running and playing.We have since found so many countless memories of him on old camera films and memory cards that make us laugh and smile at the good times we had.
    I have taken in a little white shih tzu with poor back legs...like koda minus the cushings..he needed a home when we were grieving so I asked my Koda angel if he would like me to help this dog.I knew he would want me to. His name is Casper and he is very much his own dog. Koda was my first shih tzu type and he was so wonderful, it is an honour to have another.
    At first I felt terribly guilty, but that is to be expected. He does not take Kodas spot, as NO dog ever can, but he is a welcome smile to a house of cats..lol.
    I also have fostered a stray cat that came to me the day Koda died.
    There were 2 of them that came that awful day and I started feeding them.I rehomed one and now took in the other with the help of a rescue, will get him a forever home.
    Koda taught me to love unconditionally...(knew I would start crying)
    I gave him all the care and love that I never thought possible,and he has taught me so much about inner strength.Even at the end, he was so stoic and tough about his illness and never showed it.
    Koda boy..happy bithday in heaven.I wish you were here with me in body but I know your spirit is here.
    Miss that dog sooo much.

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    Oh HAPPY BIRTHDAY dear Koda!!!

    Birthdays, like holidays, are times when our precious memories should always be celebrated -- even through our tears. So thank you so much for telling us that this is Koda's special day!

    I know he is so glad that you have opened your heart to these new babies. As you say, he is not being replaced in any way. But I believe that love is a circle that remains unbroken. So Koda is joining you in passing his love on to these new little ones. And so the bond among you all grows even stronger.

    I am so glad that you posted this note. I wish Spirit Koda the happiest of birthdays, and I wish you and your whole family a holiday season filled with love.

    Sending many hugs,
    Marianne

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    Big Happy Birthday to your sweet angel Koda. I know he is watching over you and I think maybe Koda had something to do with you meeting Casper.

    I am glad to read that you are able to smile at the memories you and Koda have - and these memories will stay alive for an eternity. And it is okay to have tears in your eyes as well.

    ((((hugs))))
    Terry

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    Awww, Happy Birthday to Koda. Just think, he gave you a special gift, he gave you Casper to ease the pain and to show you laughter would again be possible. Koda led the way and the journey now is yours to make with Casper and the others who will come in and out of your life. I am sure that his playful loving spirit is always with you.

    hugs,
    Sharlene
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